Is it me or him?

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I've been with my boyfriend for two years, we're (usually) very happy and get on so well. We live together, have no DC but he has a DD from a previous relationship who I get on great with and have consistently made an effort with.

I pay half the bills but he buys all the food shopping as he earns 5x the amount I do, I do all the cooking (he really can't cook and I enjoy it) and I do most of the cleaning, except on a Friday when he has the day off and I work. We normally get on so well, he supports me completely and really takes care of me and vice verse. We have a good sex life, anyway you get the idea, we are usually good.

Anyway, yesterday we went for breakfast after sledging with his DD and bumped into a guy I was seeing, who I almost slept with but didn't. DP knew about this when we first got together. DP immediately was off and awkward with me, I decided to give him space and went out. When I came back we had an argument and he said that he felt stupid that he feels this way and is in such a foul mood about it, we discussed if we were truly happy with each other and we both said yes, neither of us have ever wanted to split.

Yet this morning he's still off with me? What do I do? (Don't have much relationship experience!)

It's not the best reaction but it's not LTB territory.

I think the might be leaving me!

Sounds like he has insecurity issues. I used to be like this and would get in a grump for ages if my OH ever spoke to his ex (who is happily married to someone else and she and my OH split up years ago). I would get really down about it and act frosty to him for a couple of days until i’d calmed down.
I now realise that I was projecting my own insecurities/self esteem issues onto the situation and trying to make him feel bad for the way I was feeling. I knew I had to sort it out before it became completely toxic to our relationship.
If you give him absolutely no reason to not trust you, and you have zero feelings for this other guy then your OH really needs to start working on his insecurities. Could you have a talk with him about it calmly and reassure him how much you love him and he’s the only man for you? Make sure you tell him that this sort of behaviour isn’t ok though and he needs to try and deal with it to avoid pushing you away

"I pay half the bills but he buys all the food shopping as he earns 5x the amount I do"

That's wrong for a start; it should be proportionate according to the amounts you earn. Who decided on 50-50 to begin with, him?.

I think you are seeing what he is really like now and that person is not as nice as you think he is.

So you both met someone yesterday who you previously were seeing. This is his issue though for he to own and not yours to carry or otherwise feel responsible for. You are not responsible for him.

Wow he sounds very ott! You had a life before you met him.

If he is then he's daft. We all have history, including him! How daft would it be if you went cold and distant and threatened to leave everytime you saw his DD's mum?!?!

He needs some help to get past these issues. Any chance he would go for some councilling or something? If he can't get past it his choices are finding a woman who has never been interested in another man and this is her very first relationship or being alone.

He's insecure, immature and jealous. It's simply who he is. He's also a bit of a twat. Very little you can do about it other than ride it out.

As to the financials. Ignore the poster who has decided she is in charge of how how you should both operate and she's right and you're both wrong.

There is nothing wrong with you paying yout way for your living accommodation and you should do what feels right.

He's leaving you because you bumped into an ex? Wtf
He's pathetic

OP - presumably you know you dated and had sex before???
Both of you sound insecure.

Him - getting weird on seeing and ex you haven’t slept with.
You - thinking that getting upset and jealous means he is going to leave.

There isn’t really a need for drama here. It’s just life. Moods go up and down. You both need to learn that.

@Josuk how does OP sound insecure? She's not the one acting all weird here