ExH undeclared income unfair?

[Sunnyday1234]

My ExH (separated 2 yrs, divorced 18 months, 2 DC) was abusive and controlling. He admitted unreasonable behaviour.
After some coercive control and financial lies (he refused to pay CM, then "generously offered" £200 per month, I registered him with CMS and he now pays £300 and not one single penny over for anything - even overnight school residentals, etc. I am very very skint. He took the child benefit since they were born and spent it on himself - it is only in the last few months I have been able to receive it in my name, and I had to report him for fraud to do that! He has DC 3/14 usually, but not in school hols as he 'doesnt have the holidays' (err no, neither do I, but...)

I know that he has an income of around £200 - £300 a month, at least on eBay. He runs more than one account selling and has feedback in the 1000s, and that's only on the account I know about.

When we were married he did this too, but it was all completely separate to me and I know nothing of the figures or sums involved.

Would you report his extra income to the HMRC? They are currently chasing me to repay the child benefit, as I earned £51k when we were together (so did he, he just didn't declare it to HMRC) and I will have to pay them EVEN THOUGH he took all the Ch Ben, it was all in his name and went into his bank EVEN WHEN WE WERE DIVORCED. So I have to pay back what he spent! Is soooo unfair!

If HMRC find out he has more income, then maybe he'll be required to pay the DC more?

Or do I put up and shut up, be grateful for what the DC get and be glad I'm out?

By "income" are you referring to total sales, or actual profit? If his sales are under 300 per month, then remove eBay fees of 15% and assume a profit margin of 25% on each item (including postage etc) and you're looking at a negligible amount.

I wouldn't bother. It's a very small amount and you've got bigger problems with HMRC chasing you for overpayment - i'd focus on that.

Ok what happens when he gets chased by hmrc for undisclosed tax not paid? He's going to have to pay it but will probably close side business down leaving him 00's of pounds down a month and saying he can't find the £300 maintenance he owes you. According to CSA their default maintenance rate for 2dcs is only £51 pw. I'd take the existing money and leave him be. He's an ex for a reason, move on and leave him behind.

Of course you could threaten to grass him up if he won't increase the payments but that's technically blackmail!!

Just checked online - for 2dcs it's 20% of his net weekly income over £200.

I agree. My income now is less than £20k but I'm free and happy. His is nearer £30k plus the eBay - the feedback sales on one account alone show about £300 pm, so I know it's not massive.

I want to move on and let him carry on - let him dig his own grave - but my friends and family are livid he's pretending to be skint and want me to inform HMRC.

His family are wealthy - think private schools - but he won't pay £62 towards DC trip...grrr