Where to start, really out of my comfort zone

[Isthereaguide]

If you started over after divorce... How did you do it?

I cannot imagine ever being in a relationship with anyone except my ex. But it's been a while now and I really really miss company.

I didn't ever really date. When I was young it usually started with getting together at a party etc, then considering what to do after that.

Dating does not appeal to me at all.

BUT, part of me is thinking, if I don't want to be alone forever, I need to start doing something about that.

But, argh, I really dread dating! I definitely can't imagine going anywhere near online dating.

I did it.
1st time going out with friends and family.
Had a blast.
2nd time - Tinder. It's fun getting dressed up for a date.
Meeting new people. Doing different things.
It's totally freaky at first but you soon get used to it.
Give it a go. You may hate it, in which case you just stop it.
Also joined a local social group and met someone at that.
Have a look at meetup.com and see if there is anything of interest in your area.
I also started working at a local pub on a Sunday.
That helped with meeting local people etc....
Lots of things you can do but YOU have to do them.
Daunting? = totally!
Worth it? = absolutely!

You make it sound fun! You clearly enjoyed it.

I've been to a few meetups and surprised myself by having a nice time. I only went to a couple and then it seemed too much effort.

Im trying to catch up a bit more with older friends too - which is nice but they all have busy family lives. Limited funds for socialising but maybe I should try meetup again.

Yes I have to make changes. It's not going to magic happen.