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What is going on with ex?

8 replies

Atadbaffled · 02/03/2018 10:26

I ended it with ex three months ago after he had gone distant/told me he was not wanting anything serious and admitted to being interested in someone else. We were occasionally in touch for a chat etc, just friendly chit chat.
He is now in touch constantly and has made it clear he is missing me. He is trying his utmost to flirt and makes suggestive comments. He’s also opening up about his feelings etc in a way he never did before. He is vague about what is happening with the other woman.
Does this sound like he is just after a booty call or is he trying to get me to like/trust him again? I still fancy him like mad and have missed the contact with him but I can’t forget how badly he has treated me.

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Irishtwinmumma · 02/03/2018 10:39

It probably didn’t work out with the other girl and now he’s feeling lonely/horny.... I was in similar situation years ago. Please don’t make the same mistake as me and believe that suddenly he wants to make it work with you.
He will tell you what you want to hear until he gets what he wants and you will just end up heartbroken.
Guy that thinks you’re special won’t be looking elsewhere and have doubts and definitely won’t dump you.
Cut him off if you want to move on and be happy and find someone that adores you.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 02/03/2018 10:43

He treated you badly in your relationship so this is over in any case. The relationship with this other woman is not working out so he wants you now as his fallback girl.

Staying friends as well with ex's rarely if ever works well.

He is trying to worm his way back into your affections. Do not let him do this to you any longer, he is simply telling you what you want to hear.

AnyFucker · 02/03/2018 10:45

You are Fallback Girl

Cut him off...he has no respect for you and if you get drawn back in you clearly have no respect for yourself

hellsbellsmelons · 02/03/2018 10:46

Is this the kind of guy you want to be with - honestly??
If so, then I suggest you look at yourself and try to understand why you think this is all you are worth.
He dumped your for someone else.
Now that's not working out he's trying to worm his way back in again because he sees your weakness.
Show him you are not weak.
Ignore, block, delete.
Please move on.
This one is an arse.

Zaphodsotherhead · 02/03/2018 11:48

He is vague about what is happening with the other woman

And why do you think that might be, OP?

PaperRockMissile · 02/03/2018 12:00

You are Fallback Girl

^ this.

He's keeping his options open for a future shag. If you're receptive right now great, even if you are not keeping lines of communications open means he's in with a chance of a future shag.

I'd block him/cut him out of your life/not engage with him. Tell him its over and you have enough friends already so you don't want anything to do with him.

Isetan · 04/03/2018 04:57

Where’s your self respect! His dick needs servicing and sadly you’re acting like a viable candidate.

Block him.

Sometimeitrains · 04/03/2018 07:00

Just ask him.
Say" what is going on with you and your girlfriend did you make comments like that to your other female friends when we were dating...."
If his answer is vauge say ..".thats not really an answer is it..."
Then say "sorry I have a call comming through from my taller hotter better male friend cant talk to you now"....Smile

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