When enough is enough?!

[Inexperiencedchick]

How did you realise you wouldn’t carry on anymore and it was enough for you to say “Enough!”

Doesn’t matter at which point, just wanted to hear your experiences of ditching people from your life...

Thank you 💐

I finished with my 5 year partner recently when he called me a cunt during an argument and when I asked him not to he said he’d call me what he liked whenever he liked and I could just sit and listen to it.

He apologised afterwards but tbh it wasn’t the first time and I realised that he must have some real contempt for me to talk like that. He was the loveliest sweetest most thoughtful and generous man going when he wanted to be. But just occasionally I saw this side to him that actually really intimidated me.

Of course he thought I was just being over sensitive. My counsellor told me it was abusive (which I already knew really ) and to leave him for my own sanity.

I did have a little wobble a few days later and considered getting back with him and having counselling etc but then he said some other things which made me realise he had no idea how much of a narcissistic wanker he really is, so now I’m done.

Good luck with your decision. It’s never easy, even when it looks like it on paper. Emotions, trauma bonding, codependency etc all make it difficult to leave

I was dating someone for about 3-4 months...
He was very caring at the beginning when started to say things I should be wearing, basically waste of time. What I usually believe in is there is so much to talk about in this world... Anyways, I realised he judges me each time I say something. Offered to go for a walk, end up being judged like “I asked him to take me out” I couldn’t believe the way he was behaving. I can easily take myself out and not ask anyone for that... The idea was just to go for a walk, when the weather was warm.
After that I stepped back as I couldn’t believe that a man would be so much into control... On my BD I refused to spend it with him, and I don’t particularly celebrate them. He started to push to meet up...
I ended up in tears. Why ruin someone’s day like that when they clearly state “not celebrating and not meeting anyone” But he pushed me completely to the corner and I asked him to find someone else.
I met him after those words only once.

We barely talk and I have been unwell for few days now, again him offering help and to come over and look after me.
Genuinely don’t want anyone around me when I’m not well.

He is back on OLD and I think it is for the best.

Well done for leaving him. My own bother calls his wife a caw, and I can’t help her, while resenting my own brother...

These men think they have the power over women.
And as soon you allow something once they get worse and worse...

Stay strong and really well done 💐

When I found all my sentimental jewellery in a pawn brokers and he repeatedly lied to me about it. After everything we went through because of him, all the times I bailed him out, that was the last straw.

Yes sounds like it. If he doesn’t respect your boundaries when you say you don’t want to spend time with him etc then he doesn’t respect you full stop. Wish I’d realised this a lot sooner!

Newchapter what an arsehole!! Can’t believe anyone could be so nasty!!

Not a partner but my ex next door neighbour/ friend
Older than me and childless at the time I moved in with 2 little ones. I was aware from the start that her stories were exaggerated but her fantasy and lies started to affect my life so had to make a complete break.
When I had my youngest she had a baby from a one stand/old friend/ ex husband/ rape - varied from day to day. Our two were friends but I started to notice by age 4/5 that her little boy was starting to look confused when listening to some of her stories. By this time we had moved and I decided to break contact after a fantasy story she spread that I had copied her new bathroom, bought my child the same shoes, sent my child to every activity hers went to etc.
Sadly in truth it wad the complete opposite. So enough was enough, I dont want anything to do with compulsive liars.

Over 10 years ago now but i was hiding in my bfs bathroom i had locked myself in because he had been violent again. He was bashing the door in and i just thought "nope im not doing this" opened the door punched him in the face and ran for my life. Havent seen him since but apparently i broke his nose

And when my first 2 were tiny, in 1988 I escaped (with no money and just what I could fit in a couple of friends cars) from emotionally and financially abusive husband) when the electricity, phone and water were cut off for the third time because he hadnt paid any bills, whilst spending money on sports club memberships, having expensive business mens lunches and taking my secret £50 cash Id hidden away which my dad had given me for emergency food supplies and used it to buy a new squash racquet.
Enough was definitely enough then.

Story and Lady well done to you both for breaking free too. Depressing just how many arseholes there are in this world isn’t it. I have a feeling this thread will make for difficult reading

Thank you, that very kind of you.

Thank you MyRelationshipIsWeird i can look back and laugh now at least at the look on his face. Still makes me mad that there was at least 10 other people in the house and not a single one even tryed to help me arseholes

I’m so sorry Lady and Story for what you went through 💐

Agree, this might be a difficult thread to read but maybe it will remind us how strong women actually are...

When I had to continually change my behave and worried about doing stuff and speaking to men in case he got paranoid about me cheating on him or planning stuff. But he did what he wanted and worked away , didn't tell me his plans etc. So a complete hypocrite on top of his paranoid and controlling ways. I can't stand him and the relationship continued for far too long but we have kids so wasn't an easy decision to make.

I don’t understand why they think they are entiteled and women are not...