Before we were married 15 yrs ago I'd tell my best friend about things he'd done to upset me, she would be shocked, I was surprised at her shock and told him that my friend was shocked at what he did. Which was taking me out in a foreign country with his colleagues did not introduce me to a single one or speak to me the whole night, they all spoke to each other in other language. His explanation was social anxiety! Since then he's hated her, he travels for work and has 5 times left Sunday at 2pm when I meet my friend. I told him I was upset to cancel with her he said you see her a lot. Then asked if I would move overseas with him and 3 DCs, and I could get a flight to see her once a month. My friend and me have no fam so are close like sisters.