Children ?

[juwayriyyah31]

Everyone has different experience which stop them from having more children. So I’d like to hear your stories what made u stop having more. I have 3 and I still want more, but now am thinking 3 is enough. Takes all my energy out being a single mum

Simple, ds born when I was 45. Having another one really wasn't a good idea. I'll be 63 before he finishes school as it is.

It’s really horrible reason, by my best friends children are so horrible that they’ve put me off having anymore children.
We were going to have a few more but have decided to stick with 2.

Number 4 was a negotiation, I promised that I wouldn't ask for #5 if DH agreed to a #4. So DC4 was the last and I felt content/accepting of that.

If we had money for night nannies and cleaners then I'd have had more...

My DH wasn't hands on enough...So I stopped at 2. I would have had another if I had assurances from him.

He wanted more...I asked if he was prepared to step up and ensure I wasn't left feeling impoverished.

He wasn't able to do that. I found out many years later (from Dsis)...that he asked my DM to try and persuade me to have more. DM didn't bother saying anything to me....She knows I'm firm in my decisions.

I wish she'd told me at the time though...as I would have had serious words with him.

Because kids are fuckin hard work!

If we had money for night nannies and cleaners then I'd have had more...

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I like this.

^^yes this. If we has nannies and cleaners then yes I'd have a football team.
But...they would all have to just arrive as I can't physically carry anymore babies. I had two very traumatic pregnancies and hated every minute.

Infertility. Have twins from ivf so feel very lucky... don't want to gamble thousands more when already have two

I have 2. First was unplanned, second was because we didn't want first to be an only - i have a tiny family they'd have been completely on their own.

If i'd not had the first then i wouldn't have had one at all.

I love them and they are fab people but i can't undetstand the need people have to have children at all.

I want to have the means to help them (if they need it) in later life, with house deposits, student costs etc. That means stopping at two.

I want to be able to have a decent lifestyle, do fun things with them and be able to help them get a start in life. Plus I want to move on from the baby stage and do things myself, like earn my doctorate and have the kinds of holidays you can't have with toddlers. So, two.

We have one DS age 6. We would love another one but my health has prevented it (not fertility related).

Stopped for now at 3, money is the main factor. If we came into a large inheritance for example, or our earnings increased, we'd defo have number 4. We want to be able to provide financially for them when they are older- help with property, uni fees, etc and of course all of those things cost so much.

I have 2 and will never have anymore- firstly I get severe hyperemesis in pregnancy and I wouldn't cope either physically or mentally or be able to look after my kids.

Secondly I feel another child would impact negatively on my existing kids, one of whom has additional needs. At the moment they each have their own room, lots of quality time as DP and I can take one each etc. Throwing a new baby into the mix would disrupt their lives too much.

I have 2 and would have liked more but I am really sick with pregnancy and had complications after both births (different and bad luck both times but nothing serious) so we are talking a year both times when I am completely useless and dh couldn't face going through it again which is fair enough.

I felt sad for a while but they are older now and we have our lives back. A lot of what we can do is driven by appropriateness for the younger one (which can be frustrating for the older one) as well as cost so another child would have delayed / excluded more. So I have come full circle and I am happy we stopped at 2 its right for us.

Being driven to the edge of my mental stability!

Always wanted 4, got to 3, decided that was enough. Booked in for the snip but had lack of restraint "moment" and no4 came along. Have now been Jaffa'd, so cannot have anymore even if I change my mind. Mrs Cuban will have to find a non-Jaffa if she ever changes her mind and wants more.

The world is going to hell in a handcart. Why bring more children into it?

We have two and that’s all we ever wanted. I’m getting my tubes done later in the year.

I’m 37, dc born when I was 32 and 37, which was very carefully planned that way. But having more means a new car, a bigger house, more time out of work. With 2 we can be financially comfortable and I won’t be having more babies when I’m 40. Also realistically after a mc and two healthy pregnancies, easy births, healthy dc, I also don’t want to take any chances with my health or a baby’s especially due to my age.

We’re also just quite happy with two. It’s the perfect balance and perfect age gap for us.