I feel completely selfish for writing this but here goes anyway.
I'm nearly 39 weeks pg with my 3rd and I'm a little bit upset with my mum but I don't know if I've a right to be, really.
I've never had an easy relationship with her but she lives in the next village with my dad, she has been quite nasty and vicious in my past including last year when she called my dp an animal, scum, thick etc for no reason apart from he comes from a rougher part of town and she was being snobby. She never helped us when we moved house either.
Well we got over that and put all of our differences aside when my dad had a heartattack and was diagnosed with COPD, fluid on his lung, angina and had severe breathing difficulites about 2 months ago, and was in hospital for 6 weeks.
Now I know my mum went through hell, as she was off work for stress, had money worries but still was generous enough to help me out with my phone bill and lent me her car as we were struggling too. I've sorted my finances out and have the money to pay her back which she wont accept. We helped her out in other ways that we could, did her housework, dp sat with dad in the hospital when she couldn't, did odd jobs for her etc.
Now she's gone weird and i'm a bit upset. Ok deep breath. For all our differences and her oddness we are quite close, she and dad are very good grandparents. This will be my 3rd baby and they have always been there for me really.
My dad is out of hospital and is on the mend, he's really well considering and is getting out and about which is lovely to see, things have really settled down for them and my mum looks happier.
My mum told me a couple of weeks ago that her no 1 prioty is my dad now (which of course it should be) and she couldn't get excited about the baby or interested in anything else at the momet. I thought ok fair enough, she's been through a lot, I'll leave it. I completely understand why they can't be as supportive as they used to be
Today we were round having a cuppa, and I went a bit quiet cos the baby was having a bit of a squirm and it felt quite painful. My mum said oh for heavens sake, you've only got 8 days left, your condition is self inflicted, just think of poor old dad he has got this for the restof his life, will you just f*ing smile)she never asks how I am, she has gone quite cold on me and she started taking the piss out of me in front of dp, making little snidey comments. She used to do with exp and he used to hate it.
My dad tried to ask after the kids as he can't see them much and he misses them and I just started telling him when she butted in and completely changed the subject back to my dads health problems.
I don't know maybe its just me, I'm hormonal I suppose, it has hurt me a bit. I know they have been through a lot, but my mum dosen't seem to care all that much, I'm not expecting a lot it just would be nice to be asked after and not have impatient snidey comments all the time.
Or am I being stupid, any opinions welcome