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Manipulative ex

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Lovelilies · 26/02/2018 12:46

ExP is a controlling and manipulative twat, dressed up as a caring loving father and hard done by partner.

His latest stunt is saying that the only way our son (4) will be happy again is if we are a family again. DS is currently unhappy at his nursery (he cries and cries the night before and in the morning) and doesn't like to be apart from me. He spends on average 2 days a week with his dad and one or 2 days at nursery if I'm working.

ExP has sent me this message after going to check on him today
"reassure yourself that this will all be ok in time and risk damaging the kids further. I can’t reassure myself but will do my best to make sure he is the beautiful kid he deserves to be.."

On Friday he showed my DD from a previous relationship, who can't stand him because of how he's treated us in the past, a picture of a pony and said look, I want to buy you this pony but your mum won't let me.

Any advice in handling him? It's exhausting, but also hurtful that he's basically saying our kids (we have 1.5 yo DD as well) will be messed up like my eldest (12 yo, has ASD and her DF isn't interested), and it's all down to me.

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Gide · 26/02/2018 13:27

Ignore him bar handovers. Don’t let him near your oldest or in your house.

Lovelilies · 26/02/2018 14:35

I'm planning on sending him to the local pre school then school in September which he wants to do, but exP wants him to go to a 'nicer' school further away which I can't get him to due to my working patterns.

OP posts:
Lovelilies · 26/02/2018 14:35

Can I just send him and tell exP?

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MrsElvis · 26/02/2018 14:42

Yes if your child lives with you, you can make the decision on where he goes to Pre school / school

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