Do you really dislike any of your OH friends and why?

[Elm1524]

So I was just wondering do any of you really not like your OH friends and why?

One of OH best friends I can’t stand and it’s not for a particularly good reason she’s just loud mouthed, got a whole different set of morals to me and her life seems to be problem after problem that me and OH pick up the pieces for.

There are def friends I like more than others.

It sounds like you're doing a lot for this friend though which must be quite difficult

If it wasn’t always the same mistakes being made I wouldn’t mind so much, this friend is constantly dating different guys and constantly ends up “heartbroken” by them, even OH gets sick of it at times and has to take a step back.

I did dislike a few but then we moved faaaaar away. They were all friends from primary school and as adults some of them coped better with the addition of girlfriends/wives than others.

One used to just blank me completely even if I said something directly to him in front of the group.

Another one asked me if I was going to take DP “for everything he’s worth” (19 years and 3 kids later...)

It all came to a head when his best friend started dating a woman I knew. She was just a uni person I invited out - we weren’t close. So they dated for a few months and turns out she didn’t like the group either (wonder why?) She gave him an ultimatum, her or the group, and he chose her (known her for a few months and the group since they were small children). Anyway, I got the blame for that from all DPs friends somehow so things weren’t great for a while.

We moved away and they kept in touch visiting DP occasionally. The best friend and woman broke up within a few months of us leaving and the way he carried on made it clear I hadn’t done anything wrong to begin with.

I would never give DP an ultimatum like she did, but I don’t think our relationship would have lasted if I’d had to carry on seeing those wankers every week. DP also says he’s happy to only see them in small doses too now.

Dh had a friend who i realised didn't like women generally. Time and time again he'd take against every woman he met and rant about them. Did the same to me. He hated English people too, so i had no chance! Was fine with non English men. Not surprisingly his marriage didn't last long. (She wasn't English, so was ok on that front but was a woman!)
He's lived abroad for many years now so luckily i don't have to deal with him

OH probably knows I’m not that keen on her but I would never say anything to OH or this friend that was derogatory because it’s OH oldest friend.
I actually love the rest of OH circle I seem to relate to them more because they are all settling down and not looking for wild nights out or having problems 24/7, I didn’t have pretty much any friends when we first got together and they just welcomed me into their circle and we click really well.
I’m actually really glad you said that, if I had to see this friend every week I can honestly say it would drive me up the walls and then round the bend. I’m glad I’m not the only one.

I’m glad that friend has moved abroad sounds like an absolute hellish person to be around, I’m not sure I could bite my lip in that situation

He was. I knew him in my late 20s when i was more of a pushover. I wouldn't put up with that sort of nonsense now I'm in my late 40s. No way!

Yeah in my 20’s I would of probably been the same actually

I dislike some of them, too, because some never seem to take me seriously. It might have something to do with me being younger than most of them, but I really hate to be treated that way. I also feel like they don't really include me in their conversations.