My partner and I have been together just over three years, we haven't been able to live together yet due to our circumstances. We are both in out early fifties and divorced. We live about 45 minutes away from each other. He can't move to mine because of the distance he would have to travel to work, ( he already drives an hour each way from his house so another hour and a half of travel is just too much)
I can't move to his because I need to be living near my elderly mother, I also have two teenagers still living at home, who aren't quite ready to fly the nest but wouldn't want to move away from friends, jobs etc. At the moment we see each other 3-4 nights a week, with me staying at his midweek and us spending the weekends together either at his or mine.
We would really love to get married but obviously living together at the moment isn't an option. Can it work to get married and live in separate houses until life allows us to live together (realistically that won't happen until anything happens to my mum and I don't want to hurry that along!) But my mum is an important part of our lives and we'd both love to marry whilst she's still alive and able to join us in our celebration.
Has anyone else ever done this and has it worked for you?