Grrr is it me?

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I had a job interview today, it was an important one and my mum knew how stressed and uptight I was about it.

Anyway it went great...I got it.

So phoned my mum when I got home, no answer...she'd gone to a show so I though "fair enough, she'll probably ring back later".

Needless to say she didn't so I phoned her again just now, she said "oh, how did your day go?" and before I could answer she started rattling on about her day.

10 minutes later she finally asked (in a begrudging tone as she could tell I wasn't really interested in what she was saying) how my day went. I told her I'd got the job, told her it was in a mental health unit and how chuffed I was that I'd got in something I really wanted to...this was met with "oh, I wouldn't fancy doing that, you don't want to be around there, it's all druggies and drunks..." so that pissed on my bonfire. I told her it was what I really wanted to do and I was pleased I'd got it, she replied "yeah but its a right area, they're a right lot up there you know". so I just changed the subject feeling a bit deflated, she then quickly reverts to going on about her day again .

So I waited for a pause and started to tell her about my interview...the questions the asked and how they praised my answers...she litrally interupted me mid sentance and said "oh I had to laugh today..." and started going on about something somebody had said today whilst she was out! . I was livid.

Is it just me/??? am I expecting too much??

No, my Mum does things like this.

I told her about being on an interview panel at work once, she asked why i was interviewing - as if it was something only really important people do!

Did/does your mum work? If not, she probably doesnt understand why you would want to do something like you are doing as its "not very nice".

Just remind her that someone needs to do it, and it might as well be someone who likes it and is good at it!

bloody mums!!! well done i think its fantastic you got the job, i have worked in a similar feild before and the rewards you get make it all worth while, even if they are all just druggies and drunks

Its not just you, my mum is JUST the same.

She doesn't work no, and my family don't really "do" higher education.

I was talking to her recently about the social work degree I'm doing, the convo went like this (sat in subway):

me - "yeah so I registered for the OU course..."

her - "oh, what is it? another college thing?"

me - "no, it's a degree"

her - "oh right, thought you wanted to be a receptionist"

me - "I did, years ago, anyway this course is great as it counts towards nursing, social work, midwifery..."

her - "these meatballs are not as nice as last time".

me - thinking "f*ck it".

Ok so maybe she doesnt "understand" but I know if my kids went for a job interview or were embarking on a new career I would be alot more interested in that than my meatball sub. I'ma lone parent so I don't have anyone to talk to and I kinda feel like I have no support from anywhere.

Thanks Lovemybed

Well we think youve done great

Maybe your Mum has a sort of attention deficit disorder?

my mum is abit like that over some things and i've noticed it's while she taking in the information and deciding whether to say something.

That sounds rotten! Well done on the job, sounds like you're really going to like it.
Don't want to analyse too much but, is it possible that your mum is a little jealous that you are doing these things when she never bothered/had the chance? Sorry if this is wide of the mark ... just got me thinking.

I have a mum like this! She can't accept that I'm actually the manager of my scheme and has asked me many times who is in charge or why I'm interviewing. She doesn't have any trouble understanding that my brother is the boss of his work however.

Well done on the job! I have done similar work in the past and although it can be challenging (which I guess you know and want)it is never boring and can be very rewarding.

My Mum does this too. Not just the interrupting, or the yakking on and on about what she's doing but the disparaging stuff as well. She's always so quick to point out the negative side of things and seems to think that she's an expert on everything.

I mentioned that we were thinking about getting some chickens when we move into our new house and she butts in with "ahhh well there's probably a covenant stopping you from doing that". That's it.

Then back to what she wants to say....

My mum does this as well... no idea why if its any consolation you are not alone