Moody DH

[Chatterbitch]

I am so sick of DH and his petty moods. It's a constant flux of being happy and fine and then getting into a petty mood over something tiny. I was just doing the washing up (his from yesterday). He then used something I'd washed up, weirdly tipped it over to check the underside and tipped hot food on himself and got in a mood because he said it was my fault the underside was sticky and that's why he had burned himself.

I can't even think of other examples at the moment but it's constant, probably four or five things a day. Another thing was he was half an hour late to meet me the other week and he said it was my fault because he didn't have an ironed shirt- we both work full time, I've told him to iron his own stuff.

He's now sulking in the next room. The strange thing is he thinks he is competely in the right. When this resolves he will think he is forgiving me.

Not sure where to go with it all from here or how to get him to snap out of this awful trait?

For the love of god don’t let him find the diary though! Can you imagine his reaction?!
He sounds awful, I couldn’t live like that. Just start calling him out, don’t back down or you’re going to live like this forever.

This isn't someone being moody, this is a whole other level of controlling, entitled and downright nasty behaviour.

You can't 'fix' him but you can work on making sure he doesn't erode your self esteem or belief in the truth.

Wow. He does not sound well.

Put your foot down and challenge him. Every. Single. Time. 'what do you mean it's my fault?' and then challenge the answer. 'So you're saying you couldn't have bought more petrol/got a new Sat Nav/ironed the shirt?'

Just to make it ABSOLUTELY CLEAR to him who is really at fault. He won't change, he can't, but you can at least make your position clear, so when you leave him he can't say it's a surprise and accuse you of 'having a breakdown over nothing.'

Voice of experience here.

Please don’t have baby with this person. Can you imagine what he’s gonna be like when your both sleep deprived, exhausted stressed and you have a baby that needs 24/7 care?? You will also need tons of emotional support from him which I don’t think he will give you.

RUN RUN RUN.

Just run.

I've been here before, twice, and there's no way in hell I'd go back to feeling like I was on eggshells around someone.

It shattered my confidence and self-worth and it will make you question everything.

Leave while you don't have kids and don't put up with his shitty abusive behaviour.

Seriously, who blames someone else for spilling a drink? Mind boggling.

I agree with everyone. Get out now before you have children. It’s not going to get better.

I’ve had a decade with a controlling, sulky, generally shit man (who, of course, thinks he’s the bee’s knees) and it absolutely destroys your self confidence.

You deserve better than this.

This is all pretty familiar. For many years I thought all blokes were like this , I think comedy series also install in us that this is how men ‘are’ I started acting indifferent, that helps

OMG - why stay.
Life is waaaaay too short for this crap.
Get out now - while you have no other ties to him.
He is gaslighting you.
Moving goal posts.
Blaming everything on you.
Sulking, i.e. stonewalling you.
All abusive traits.
Why put up with it?????
Really ask yourself that!