does anyone have a previously really close female (or male) friend/partner who found spiritualism...

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... and now thinks they exist on another level? Rendering it impossible for you to have a decent conversation/relationship with them? With them acting as the sage and as if you are the unenlightened novice? Without them putting your thoughts, feelings and stuff that happens to you in life down to karma, past spiritual trauma or your desperate need for reiki healing?

Thanks for your replies everyone

He is not bothering me / well, only with his prosletyzing and his going around shaking his head patronisingly and telling people “poor display, she’s just not evolved at the rate that I have...” (I broke up with HIM btw for his batshit ideas)

And leading up to all that when we were still together, he was supposedly channelling people’s dead parents and relatives spontaneously when we used to be out socialising. Honestly he spoke so much shit - supposedly from intuition but hugely intrusive to others. I found it extremely embarrassing and hurtful to people.

Plus I couldn’t have a health problem or a cold without him telling me it was because of the negative energy I received from somewhere or something ancestral in my “father’s line” which I needed to let go of through a family constellation.

Or the fact I had an abortion in my twenties and that I had created bad karma I would have to work off for years to come.

I know he’s crazy, I am just venting. And wondering whether this is actually a personality disorder people get.

I agree with the pp’s who talk about dissociation and narcissism. And I am shocked at the pp who was a nanny and the family told her their son was tripping over her negative energy and she needed to get cleansed!

He sounds like a fucking horror.

An old friend of mine when home to small town Virginia in the US and is an evangelical Christian who weaves god into every fucking conversation now.

Drives me mad.

Display, I’ve just found this thread and it describes the behaviour of the ‘empath’ on my thread to a T. This person thinks he can cure my autism (wonders if it’s the same one!)

It doesn't really matter whether other people have had similar experiences.

The fact is this guy is a massive knob and you need to cut him out of your life.

This thread has really made me laugh - I am probably that female!

My DH's BF found Islam not long after we got married, which is no problem, expect he found the ISIS version of Islam rather than the real one. Even our Muslim friends ditched him because he was too extreme.

Mental illness, surely?

I think my friend who has become obsessed with natural healing etc. is doing it because it's one thing she thinks she can control when everything else is a bit crap for her.

My friend who believes in ghosts and mediums is the same, it’s a thing that gives her a feeling of control over her shitty life.

She’s not superior about it though. She laughs about me not believing in it and always says she knows I will ‘be sensible’.

I think there is a difference between people who seek things to give them reassurance in a harsh world and people who believe their beliefs make them some kind of special person.

I had a friend who believed absolutely everything, from tennis elbow to cancer, could be cured by Bio-Energy. Which is waving your hands around a person, Phoebe Buffay style. She became a practitioner and the stories she told me about the hope she gave to people who really really needed to see a doctor.

I'm a nurse. We are no longer friends. She still has a full "practise".

Oh yes I've had the Bio Energy too 😂

I'm really sceptical about the actual morals of these people. They don't ime seem to possess them or critical thinking.

It's ironic that my friend who is obsessed with health is the last person I'd go to with a health problem as her response is all about her not about me. I don't know whether she realises it. Other people have got frustrated with her too, it's sad really, she's isolating herself.