How do you cope 'sharing' your children?

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I have serious doubts about relationship with oh, and fantasise occasionally about ending it with him, but I just can't stand the thought of DDs being away from me. I couldn't bear for them to stay the night wihout me, or spend a weekend away from me. Just out of interest really, how do you cope, and what sort of arrangements are normal, i.e. every other weekend away with oh??

I guess my littlies are still very little 18months and 3 months, so I will probably be able to cope better when they're older, but I just can't imagine it.

Thanks lovemybed

Annie - what you are saying makes alot of sense. I think you are very sensible to take legal advice but keep talking to him. They are not always as unreasonable as you expect them to be!! Has he said that he won't do a bit of extra driving to see his child? My ex works quite near to us (20 mins drive) but lives an hour away. We work it so that one of us drives one way, one drives the other way each weekend. It's not ideal sometimes (especially in Friday night rush hour when I leave him and drive for another 2hours to get home) BUT the kids see their Dad and I have the rest of the night with my DH!

DMO - my ds had cub camp last weekend - I have never seen a child so dirty. He hadn't opened his wash bag, had the same pants on on sunday as he was wearing when I dropped him off on Friday, but he had the biggest smile on his face - he had a wonderful time!!