Things have been very difficult and we’ve almost separated but he takes my birthday off work and after I tell him I’m going to see my mother he lets me known that he still has it off so I agree to see mother at weekend and go out with him for lunch as I’d feel bad and uncomfortable otherwise. The anger I feel for him is now chronic though and I behave badly that morning because something upset me and then he didn’t even wish me happy birthday which was my fault because of my behaviour. We argued and then had lunch which he paid for at a restaurant i chose because I knew expecting him to suggest anything was stupid and I’m exhausted. That was nice of him even if the lunch was spoiled by the morning because of the upset I caused. He did not however give me a card or any gift and said that it’s because things have been difficult and he had no time but I think it’s just very mean as I have always made an effort to celebrate his birthday and give him something thoughtful even when things haven’t been good between us and I always got him a card from our son. I’m having a really hard time at the moment and am on my own most of the time with our son who has asd and 3 month old baby and I just feel really unloved. Is that spoilt of me?