Is Reddit Cheating?

[JennyJustAsking]

Explicit chat and sharing, incl intimate (although non identifying) photos - with no one involved having any intention of taking things into RL. Partner doesn’t know.

Is this cheating or the new porn?

(Appreciate some feel porn and cheating is one and the same)

Everyone has a different definition or a line.

Do you class it at cheating or porn? Then there is your answer.

Of course it's cheating!

I watch porn both in and out of relationships, I don't class it as cheating but I'm sure there will be others along who disagree.
If I found out my 'p' (single at the moment) had been watching porn, as long as it wasn't to the detriment of our sex life , it wouldn't bother me. I think most men with normal sexual appetites watch it. Again just my opinion and I'm sure others will disagree.
However you're talking about interactive sexual encounters, I know they haven't meet etc, but it's still interactive which in my book makes it a whole lot more personal.
Your bf/husband is sending and receiving naked pics with someone He is conversing with. He is sharing intimate parts of his life and personality/body with other women (a 2 way basis) , and im assuming youve found this stufff he hasnt shared it willingly, so in my book thats lying too. Yes for me that's cheating.

Sorry if I jumped to the conclusion that it was your bf/husband, that's just how I read the post the first time.

I think the interaction makes it more than porn, sorry.

I read it as you doing this, not your partner, but either way it doesn’t matter because I’d say it’s cheating. Interacting with the other person is very different to watching porn. You are deliberately trying to sexually excite another person. That’s definitely cheating in my book.

I think if you're doing something your partner doesn't know about and would probably not be happy about and you're hiding it from them for that reason then it's cheating.

Chat and sharing images is vvv different to porn! I don't class porn as cheating at all but what your describing definitely is

Yes I would class that as cheating and different to viewing porn

If you're hiding it and would hate them to know then yes, it's cheating.

If you feel the need to hide it from your partner because of their reaction, then it is cheating.

That is the simple way to explain it.

It’s me doing the reddit-ing.

I’ve been posting photos and responding to the appreciative PMs. There’s not one particular user and no prolonged back and forth. Just what I see as harmless, sexy fun stuff.

I had wondered about telling / showing DH as I thought it might spice things up for us. But it’s we’ve never done anything like that before and he’s very, erm, straight I suppose.

I just wanted to judge others impartial thoughts before I did something rash!!

So I guess I’d better not tell him. And stop the posting/chatting.

I'm the more sexually adventurous in my relationship and really open minded but to me that's cheating. Any introduction of a third party - be that face to face or via any other medium - needs to be ok'd by both people in the relationship, IMO.

... Honestly what part of you thought doing that without telling your DH was okay? That is totally ridiculous.

Wow! That's cheating. Interacting sexual with someone else. Why the fuck did you think that was OK?! Tbf, different people have different boundaries, but you should have talked about it with dh before doing it to find out what his were. How would you feel if he was carrying on like this with other women?

*sexually

So what you're saying is you're posting nudes and getting attention from creeps and not telling your dh...I'm really surprised you had to ask tbh.
I mean that's perfectly ok if both of you are on board and happy with it and it adds something to your relationship but clearly this is just something you enjoy.
Would you feel ok if your partner was doing it or if he was one of the 'appreciative' people doing the commenting?

It’s not that I haven’t told him. It’s just I haven’t told him yet. It wasn’t a planned thing! And anyway he didn’t miss out!

But, point taken and noted.

Of course it's cheating, I bet your hiding all this aren't you, as you already know it's cheating. Now if your DP had zero issues with it then it's fine..

If FH was doing what I’m doing with someone IRL I’d be mortified and heartbroken. But if he was interacting with a bunch of random strangers on the internet, that’s just fantasy. So, no I wouldn’t have a problem. Which is obviously why I’m ok doing it. And why I needed to check my point of view with you lot.

The thing is op it is real life ..there's a real actual live human at the other end of the phone or computer screen or whatever. Those people now have access to photos of you.
It's very easy when it's you doing it to say 'but it's not real life people' ..it is!
I think people say this to justify their actions and minimise what their doing.

Ermehhgawwd wtf is going on in this world & where is your moral compass op?

Let's say your DH was doing the same with another woman and then this woman suggested to meet up , then how would you feel?

If my boyfriend was doing this he would be dumped quicker than a newyork minute . Disgusting

You are posting on gone wild I assume? It's ok to like other people looking or watching you but you need to share that aspect of your sexuality with your other half. If he isn't ok with it, then it's cheating. If you haven't told him yet then there's a reason why! You obviously think he'd be annoyed or wouldn't condone it.

How is what you’re doing not irl? You’re giving (via a public page) men & women intimate photos of yourself and exchanging sexual comments. It is happening in real life, it’s not just a fantasy. The fact that you don’t intend to meet these people doesn’t mean you’re not really doing it! I’m pretty stunned that you need other people to tell you that doing this behind your partner’s back is not generally acceptable behaviour.

If my husband was doing what you're doing, he would be an ex husband very quickly.