Trying not to over think...but

[Itsawrap2002]

This is probably silly but I've started seeing a guy only been 6 weeks or so, we used to be together but that was approx 15 years ago. We've been out a couple of times (lives in another city) & we both have young children. We usually speak on the phone but the last week or 2 hardly spoken. He does work long hours and I dnt. So I normally let him text/call 1st. Last couple times it been a open text ie 'how are you?' I reply with an open text then nothing for a few days. I am probably over thinking but wondering if I am missing something. I do like to trust my instincts, and part of me is thinking that I need to be a bit more forth coming as part of the issue before was I was too laid back. The other part is thinking keeping me at arms length,especially as his ex is being difficult about him seeing his children, so trying to please her. Dnt think he seeing anyone else as doesn't really have time too.

My longterm partner did this and he went ages before replying to my texts and it was silly but made me feel invisible. i later found out he was messaging losds of others so i wasnt a priority and the last straw was after we had put in an offer for a flat , i excitedly text him to say they had accepted our offer. Got nothing back, no phone call for about 5 hrs later and just knew in my gut i wasnt putting up with not being a priority in his life.

Just sounds to me like he doesn't really have the time or desire to put much effort in to this.
If he has work and an ex and sorting the kids out to deal with he's probably keeping you at arms length for a reason.
It's only been a few weeks and I think it's a lot more casual for him than you want it to be.
IME if he was feeling it and wanted it to be more then he would be more putting in more effort. So I guess your choice is to wait around hoping it changes or to just move along and find someone who is either able to or wants to begin a relationship.