My mum and Dad are still together. My mum is an absolute angel. Her heart is kind. I have never ever argued with my mum. I am now 23 and live in my own house with my partner. My mum is the perfect mum. But my dad is an absolute dick.
I witnessed him always shouting at her and now with age I've realised he's verbally and emotionally abusive to her. He used to be to me. It's also given me a terrible view of relationships and what's normal (ie to snap at someone and be controlling - I try to not let this behaviour come from me but it does sometimes).
To me personally, he's always called me fat despite being a size 8 and now my body image is very messed up. Surprisingly social media has helped me get back into a good mindset with that. When I got my first boyfriend at 16 he didn't talk to me for a month. Sometimes he will just randomly be in a mood with me. I genuinely blame this as the reason why, when that boyfriend began emotionally and physically abusing me, I kept it hidden. I luckily escaped whilst at University and my strong will saved me.
My mum will never leave my dad and I'm sad to say I'd never tell her to. I would always be there for her though through anything. He is disrespectful to her when he wants to be. I think he's very damaged from childhood and is now disabled so takes his constant pain out on her.
I don't know what I want from this post but I feel lost and I genuinely don't know what to do.
My dad does love me and does want the best for me I think, he can be good to me and our relationship improved.
Right now he's not talking to my mum and I think it's because I went on holiday and sent the pictures to my mum when in the past I would send to him (Mum didn't have an iPhone). I think he's jealous.