Hurt at best friend's reaction about my look

[Fmlgirl]

Hi lovely Mumsnetters,

So this is only a very minor thing but still playing on my mind:

I met my best friend yesterday and when she saw me, she looked me up and down, rolled her eyes and started giggling to herself. It was blatantly obvious. Maybe thinking she had done it in her head.

To be fair I was wearing jeans and trainers that day and didn't look great but there is a lot of stuff going on in my life (my mother unwell etc) and I have stopped making an effort lately.

I confronted her straight away (asking if there was something stuck to my jeans) but she said there was nothing.

I'm hurt by this and keep thinking about it. It's more about the principle, I thought this person had my back and would tell me outright if something was wrong with my outfit.

Any thoughts?

She's clearly not much of a friend - and as soon as you were feeling less than your best, she took the chance to stamp on you with the same intentions as with the strangers she is so sneery about.

As the gist of the saying goes, you can lose weight far more easily than she'll ever stop being unpleasant. If you want to lose weight, that is.

She is a superficial bitch. A real friend would have been more concerned with how you are coping than your clothing and 'look'

Buy her a Burn Book and tell her she can't sit with you next time.

I did ask her straight away as explained above and she said "nothing" and just brushed it off

You said you asked if there was 'something stuck' to your jeans.

Ask her what she was laughing at. It could have been something behind you. Say you were hurt as you thought she was laughing at you. She's your best mate. Surely you feel comfortable asking her directly.

Yeah, you shouldn't have issues calling her out directly-why did you?

HarryElephante,

The way I said it to her was "i noticed you looked down on my shoes and started smiling, is there something stuck to my jeans or something". In reality it was an up and down look, followed by a shocked face and eye roll. I said it like this because I didn't want to be accusatory and unfair.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom because I don't deal well with confrontation. In hindsight I wish I had been more direct.

Sounds like she’s a bitch.... especially if she knows you’re going through a lot. She should be giving you a hug, not laughing at you. Not a good friend.

That was really hurtful
She doesn't sound like she deserves to be your friend.

Wow your ‘friend’ is really nasty.

Why do you like her? Why do you want to be her friend?

Anyone who gets her fun from judging and finding her friends appearance funny, well, I don’t think she’s valid as a person in my book!

Bluntness has it.
This had absolutely nothing to do with what you were wearing. She needed an ego boost and you were available.

Her judgements of people passing by revealed who she is. It was just a matter of time before she turned it on you. She has no boundaries to not do this to her friends.
(She doesn’t deserve friends.)

You can dump her, but she actually dumped you that day, imho. Anything “nice” from her after that is a superficial facade.

The problem is all hers; it’s her, not you, not your looks, and not your wardrobe.

There’s nothing wrong with your look.

There is something wrong with her attitude.