How would you feel if your Dp filmed you having sex

[Blackkitten]

My abusive ex filmed us having sex without my knowledge, I was not happy and he promised he had deleted it. We have now split and I have mentioned how I hated it, as he was spouting on how he treated me with such respect NOT. I am no prude but would never agree to this for this reason we are separated and he is very vindictive. He cannot see why I am upset by this. I have another thread running about the breakup which id pretty messy. Thoughts please

Are you absolutely sure he has actually deleted it?

You'll probably get a few people saying how they wouldn't mind but I absolutely would. That's a massive breach of trust

Knowing what I know now about him, highly likely he kept it. I feel sick.

OMG, we are quite a daring couple and have done this, but no way would either of us do this without the others consent, and of course being up for it on that day.
If anyone says they wouldn't mind they are weird or lying.

OP, I'd be tempted to inform the Police and ask them to check his gadgets to make sure it doesn't exist. Make sure you say it was without your knowledge, let alone consent.

Do not show him further how upset you are, he will just use this to beat you emotionally over the head with. I would think that those images were uploaded to the internet soon after filming. All of his actions here are about power and control; he still wants absolute even though you have thankfully now split up.

I would not kill myself, but him I'd do the Princess bride "to the pain" treatment.

It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks. Your feelings are valid. You don’t need to justify them.

What a prick

Atilla God I hope he has not done that. You are right about him being a control freak. He has shown himself to be a very horrible person

I doubt he will have deleted them. I'd suggest informing the police - if you have texts about it show them those too. They can seize his equipment as it could be revenge porn. Good luck x

I am meeting the police tomorrow about the theft of my car, computer and him taking money out of my account. So may mention this too. I should have seen the Red flags, all exes hate him, has been arrested to attacking a woman, stole another car belonging to his exe, the list goes on. He convinced me that all these people were mad and he was a victim.

www.lancashiretelegraph.co.uk/news/15610779.Former_policeman_Jayson_Lobo_has_been_jailed_for_three_years_for_a_string_of_voyeurism_offences/

Alec yuk horrible story but would not give him that much credit. He is just a saddo that abused me trust.

It’s a basic violation of consent isn’t it?

Real nasty stuff. I’d be reporting it. Though I’m not sure you’re in the uk are you? Some countries may not have as good legal protection around the consent and full body autonomy of women?

Good luck. So foul to think he still has these type of things.

There is a new law isn't there about revenge porn? You could always contact your local police? See what advice you can get about this. What an arse he is. I'm pretty sure it's also illegal to film without your consent.

I am in the UK, he is not. I am talking to police re the theft and will discuss this. The part is he can see that he has done no wrong.

He is still emailing me saying it was only a short video so what is the problem. His self entitlement takes my breath away.