If your marriage is over do you say you are single or divorced?

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My marriage ended 18 months ago and I got divorced last year. I've not really thought about it so on the odd occasion I've been asked have said I am single. But I have met up with lots of other women whose marriages have broken up and they all say they are divorced. What do you class yourself and why, and do you think it matters? I mean, not matters in a judgemental self but in a "I'm not with someone right now" sense.

*sense not self

My divorce was finalised 2 years ago. If anyone asks or if I'm completing a form then I say 'single' rather than 'divorced' as I don't see how it is relevant. I also like to pretend that my marriage never happened and don't need the reminders!

It's not relevant really Lunch, I hope that came across in my post, just my own curiousity.
But yes, I too would rather my marriage had never happened!

Oh yes I know, I meant it isn't relevant information on the forms I was filling out.

I've been told off in work for putting all new records for women on the system as Ms as I don't ask them if they are Miss/Mrs/Ms. The information isn't relevant to our work!

Single

Single.

It feels like Divorcée is still a negative woman for a woman so I'd rather pretend I was never married

I guess some people think it bad to have reached without being married at all. I certainly know at least one woman who blithely married the wrong man for the sake of the picture perfect wedding. At least if you've been married and divorced someone definitely wanted you once and there's paperwork to prove it. I think I'm more of the type to erase history though!

I tend to choose "Ms" where possible as titles are such bollocks. Applauding pp who defaults to Ms at work for third parties. No need almost all the time.

I always put 'divorced' on insurance forms and similar as those companies will find any excuse not to pay out. For anything else I put single.

Ms single. I loathe it when I'm asked my marital status on forms and I either don't fill it out or write N/A; or, if I have no choice but to fill it out, hotly complain each time. Nobody's business.

MrsHathaway I was told by a (male) manager that title is a required field and I have to ask it. I asked why it was required, as we don't need to ask men as they are just Mr, or sometimes Dr, and he couldn't give me an answer. So I said let me know when you can give me a valid reason for taking that information and I'll keep doing my thing in the meantime. I know I'm irritating people at work, but I do not care.

I say single.

A divorce is just paperwork. It's not who you are.

Divorced = baggage
But to be honest it will come out anyway if you start dating again if that's the context you mean

Single was my description. Now I’m a new relationship though I still, and will always call myself a single mum.

I do the same at work with Ms unless they've filled the occupation as Doctor. I have to fill in forms for a huge age range and the under 25's never seen to use Ms

Gosh, I have never thought about it. I haven't had to sign any forms recently and my divorce will be finalized shortly. No-one has really asked me, but I have mentioned 'going through a divorce' to someone, whereas before I said 'separated'

I think I should go with single for general terms.

So I said let me know when you can give me a valid reason for taking that information and I'll keep doing my thing in the meantime. I know I'm irritating people at work, but I do not care.

Thank you for doing it. It does matter.

At least if you've been married and divorced someone definitely wanted you once Oh dear, oh dear .....

HAHAHAHAHA

Divorced.

Single is has t been married. Divorced is used to be married no longer am. Why would you lie?

Both, it's not an either or situation.

You are single as a consequence of a divorce. Both are true in your case.

You can chose whichever you feel like depending on situation and mood.