Listening ear

[FlossyMittens]

Would it be wrong as a single woman, to offer a listening ear to another woman's husband? Would I be intruding in their marriage?

A listening ear is all it is I should like to add.

He might be playing both the op and his wife mid forties long marriage maybe a midlife crisis he may be flattered by the op attention. I think if this continues everyone involved Is going to get hurt including the op as she is already developing feelings towards him. Let’s hope he doesn’t have dc

Alfiemoon 1 - he does not discuss the details of his marriage to me nor has he spoken about his wife to me. I doubt his wife knows about our friendship though. I do not want to cause any hurt so I am keeping away.

Apologies I presumed it was relationship advice he was discussing with you flossymittens

That's okay Alfiemoon1. I hope you don't mind me asking this, but why do you tolerate your husband's behaviour?

Is it because you are fearful of living on your own and having to take sole responsibility for the children and finances? Is it easier, as a wife, to just tolerate this sort of behaviour for the sake of keeping the family together? I'm just trying to get some perspective on it all. Sorry if I am asking too many questions.

Only just seen this flossy its complicated. Dh doesn’t see he’s doing anything wrong they aren’t sexting or anything. I had no problem with the friendship originally but it got a bit much so voiced my objection so he started to hide his contact which of course brought more problems. Been together 23 year and waver from that’s it we are divorcing whenever I find out he’s lied to this is ridiculous it’s nothing. They aren’t currently in contact after my last blow up and whenever I do blow up they increase the contact to discuss it which annoys me more lol
I have always sorted the childcare and finances and been the responsible one so it’s not that which stops me leaving
At times I wish he would sleep with her as then it would be definitely game over for me

Thanks for replying Alfiemoon1. It does sound complicated. You have had 23 years of one another, so I imagine that brings with it a feeling of being tied to each other, emotionally and practically.

Please understand that I am not attempting to take the side of your husband here, but do you think he is trying to work out who he is? Maybe he continues to have this relationship with her because it enables him to be different around her, than he is around you?

However, what I don't understand is why he continues to do what he is doing, when he knows that it upsets you. I'm sorry you are having a hard time with it all.