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My track record is so bad that I was destined to be a single mum and am happy with it.

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Mummblebee · 21/02/2018 02:55

Just reflecting on my life really. I'm due to have my first DD next month. I'm single. Looking back on my past relationships i can't help but feel upset in the way I have allowed myself to be used violated, taken for granted and made a laughing stock of. I really have a terrible track record with men and a part of me is happy that I'm going to be a single mum.

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toffee1000 · 21/02/2018 03:07

You definitely aren’t the only one who’s decided to be single forever and who’s happy about it. MN seems full of them right now!
Your DD will definitely keep you occupied. All the best with that Smile

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Mummblebee · 21/02/2018 03:14

I didn't say Im going to be single forever..that's a bit of a leap.. but there are definitely worse things than being a single mum. I'd rather do it alone than be trapped with an emotionally abusing man which is all I ever seem to attract!

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toffee1000 · 21/02/2018 03:43

Oops sorry for the assumption Blush
Taking a break from relationships definitely sounds like a good idea. You can fully concentrate on your DD and take stock of your life.

Kingsclerelass · 21/02/2018 04:18

Mumblebee, I completely understand how you feel. You just have to chalk it up to experience and move on.
My ds is 9, I've been single for 3 years and to be honest life is much nicer.
I'm not saying I'll be single for ever but it's a huge relief to be able to live our lives without a selfish man child whining that he wants master chef food on a week night, or to go on holiday mid-term or constantly criticising my driving when I'm the one with 19 years no claims.
A quiet coffee with my feet up and no one nagging me is still such a luxury Smile
Single mum hood is very hard work but we're doing ok and my ds has a completely stable, happy, if slightly untidy home life.
Good luck & congratulations.

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Mummblebee · 21/02/2018 11:35

Thanks @toffee1000 I plan on doing exactly that. Also focusing on self development and being the best mum and person I can be.

Thanks @Kingsclerelass I will chalk it up to experience. I'm glad you and DS are doing well and It sounds like you made a lucky escape. Partners are supposed to build us up not do the opposite! Good luck in life and love xxxFlowers

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