Deflated

[jodes86]

Okay so over Valentine's my partner was all over me, lots of sex, cuddles and all the romance..
A weekend away and he was distant, i was having to make the moves even comment on how lovey the other couple we were away with are still he took no hiny from it, i had to instigate sex and now we are back home he hasn't been near me.
He takes care of me checks i am okay but we are lacking the romance, and intimate things like a kiss or holding hands.
We have been together 3 years he says he used to try all the lovely dovey stuff but that i am cold so he has given up. He often gets snappy with me and i feel like i just can't win. I'm so confused. I feel like the longer we are together the more apart we are becoming. I love him dearly we have a wondeful life, maybe I'm just expecting to much?! I often worry he wishes he was with someone else. I dont fear he is cheating, its more we have lost a bit of spark xx

What do you love about him?

I love that he is hard working, funny, he is a great father to our 3 children, I love how he always goes out his way to get me what i want ( yes he spoils me) i love how he pushes me to strive and achieve all my dreams and the way he has built me up from being an insecure mess after a really abusive relationship. We were friends for 2 years before we started a relationship x

It doesn't sound like you're really on the same wavelength. Would you consider couples counselling?

I think we need to start with talking to each other before going down that route. I feel my past eats away at me and makes me very insecure. I think maybe i should see someone for myself before a couple therapy

You've had 3 dc in 3 years with him

Have you ever had much time together??

Exactly was I thinking Only1 the first couple off years are usually all about sex and dates and romantic holidays, maybe it's all been a bit too much too soon.

Children are from previous relationship with ex

I think it is your insecurity. Definitely get counselling and/or couples counselling.

Thank you