Confused

[Kisha86]

Well I know my unborn father for half a year now, and he says, "to be honest he wants to be single for now." But when I ask him if he would like to be introduced to my mum and family and for me to meet his, he txt back happily and willing. I'm not sure what he wants. But just need advice on my half.

im so confused by your post - from what i can make out, he probably just wants to have sex with you, if your ok with that - carry on. If not, say no and try to make sure hes involved in his child's life.

He's told you pretty much that he doesn't want a relationship with you, hasn't he? He just wants to have sex with you.

He wants sex but doesn't want a relationship

Also 5 children? Wow.

Wow judgemental and negative people. I ask for advise not judgment from old negative people with nothing good to say.

Well you’re quite obviously full of shit, so...

Still old though

And feeling bitter and using it for negativity is not it make festa inside with bitterness

You wanted advice, you have it. You don't have a brilliant grasp on English for whatever reason so perhaps you're taking these posts the right way.

The advice is focus on your children and their relationships with their Dads.

Don't have sex with him unless you're happy with no commitment, just booty calls.
Do notet him "take on" your other children when he isn't even in a relationship with you and you've known him for 6 months

You don't have to keep the baby.

1 I'm going to keep my baby.
2 It is best that he build a relationship between all of my children. so jealousy will not grow between siblings.
3 I have read up on mumsnet and how judgemental this forum is. You here to help and guide people who are vunurable not pass critism and judgement. So I'm done with site.

Sleepingstandingup before you pass judgement on someone else, look at yourself in the mirror and judge yourself with your own imperfections.

Op, he just wants sex and to be free to be with other women. He's told you this. Why do you not beleive him? He's not scared, he doesn't want to be in a relationship with uou. He's come right out and said it. Don't imagine he secretly wants more because you do. He doesn't.

He wants to meet your family because uou will co parent. It's easier if he does.

I think you're desire for a relationship with him is driving you to hope he wants more and he's lying to you. He's not. At some point he will have another partner.

Op you can defensively deflect all tou want, I'm fully aware of my own faults thanks.

However your posts are hard to read, which is why I wondered if you were taking the sensible advice wrongly

I also suspect you're annoyed because people are saying he just wants sex and not a relationship. Yes there have been a couple of shitty responses but you were pissed off well before then. It was the message he just wants sex that's done it i suspect.

It shouldn't have done, because he's been honest with uou and told you this is all he wants. If you want more than sex, don't be his booty call. Becayse you're going to get badly hurt when someone else comes on the scene.

Oh and folks, lay off the English thing, her posts are perfectly understandable and there's no need for it. They might not be perfect but they are legible and none of us are perfect.

Because I have four other children which he is happily willing to meet and take of, and he wants to baby when born everyday

so when this one say he wants to take of them I see it as an honour

That reads as you have four other children which he is happily willing to meet and take on or take care of? So a man you barely know and who has never met them and isn't looking for a commited relationship from you is willing to take on your kids. Either he's saying what he thinks you want to hear to get you to carry on having sex or he's just... well it's odd is all I'm saying.
You seeing it as an honour suggests a not great grasp of appropriate relationships for your kids. They don't know him, he could be a great step Dad in time if he's with you but they might not even get on.

and he wants to baby when born everyday-which I read to mean he wanted to have the baby every day once born but perhaps you meant see, which is better.

I'd also formalise money through CSA or whatever it is now

OP your posts make zero sense. If you've read up on Mumsnet and think we are all old judgemental people then you really shouldn't have posted.

You've been with a man for 6 months and are already pregnant by him with four other children to boot. My advice to you is leave the man (he obviously only wants you for sex and is keeping you hanging). For the love of god go and seek contraception, it's free from the Dr if you are in the UK and concentrate on your children and not looking for a man.

You shouldn't be pregnant and introducing a strange man to your children, it's so irresponsible of you.

Ohhhhhh That's reason why there is so much broken marriage...women black mail men into marrying them so the kids can grow up in a stable home? I get it now...so don't complain when the men end the marriage

No one is saying marry him. He is saying he only wants you for sex and the baby. that's the truth of it, so we're saying don't bee used for sex unless that is ask you want and don't expect him to take on / take care of four older kids he's never met when he isn't even taking on you

It's fairly obvious that English isn't OPs native language.