Hi All,
First time post so please be gentle.
Please help me get my libido back before it starts affecting my marriage. Bit of background...DH and I have a wonderful marriage in all other aspects, but the last 2 years we have had a bit of a rough deal with a lot of things, which has taken it's toll mainly on me. We have one failed IVF attempt 8 months ago which affected me more than I realised at the time. I am still not (after numerous chats with DH, Family and close friends), 100% myself. I am down a lot of the time, stressed and very anxious about the second round (which hasn't been booked in yet due to me needing to lose weight gained from the first round, but that's a whole other subject, we have had a lot of issues with the clinic which I won't go into detail with) and I just don't feel like me. DH is being wonderfully supportive and encouraging and is doing is upmost to help me get my head in the right place to lose the weight, but the more it doesn't come off, the worse I seem to be getting.
We have other very stressful things going on at the moment also which thankfully is not affecting us being a strong couple, but it is affecting my libido quite severely. My sex drive has never been strong, but I just have no drive whatsoever, and I need to get this back. DH is being so understanding about it and does not try and push anything, but I feel awful that I am not feeling it at all. I find him so attractive and I really could not want for a better husband, but I want to be a better wife in the bedroom department, and actually want to be intimate rather than just doing it because it's what we should be doing. We are both still very young, and it isn't fair on my DH that I feel like this, no matter how good he is being about it, it must be hard for him to be with someone who just doesn't want it.
So, after that mammouth post (well done if you got to the end), have any of you been in this situation? What did you do about it to help? Will it come back once all our stresses have gone? xx