Husband is badly depressed. But not doing anything to help himself. I'm at my wits end. He is angry, critical and selfish. He only shows interest when he is interested. I know this is related to his condition. I've tried for years to be patient and supportive and understanding.
Culmination came last night. I spent the day from 9.15 till six thirty decorating. He refused to help. He set playing computer games for the majority of the day after getting up late and complaining that I wasn't there for him to wake up to.
He found my socks and a gaming controller in the bed when he came to bed at two am. Starting shouting and throwing things around the room and told me he was sick of living with a womble.
My temptation is to leave with him none the wiser but we have children and I don't want to go without some kind of explanation. I could tell them I have to work away. I don't want to leave them. I don't really want to leave him but I need him to wake up and realise how he is behaving for both us and the children.
If I don't go he won't change anything. If I do go there is a strong chance I'll loose our relationship. He's stubborn and will likely decide I'm the cause of his problems. Which I may well be.