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Better off alone?

10 replies

Earlyriser84 · 19/02/2018 20:41

I keep thinking I would be better off on my own, emotionally, than staying with DP.

Yesterday he went to work in a mood because I wasn't up for sex at 6am in the morning. Then stayed at the pub when he finished. He was quite drunk when he got back and called me a cunt several times... Lazy cunt, frigid cunt, psycho cunt etc

This has been the icing on the cake for me to consider it best we separate. And he constantly accuses me of cheating. We have young children together so I'm worried about that obviously. It's not the first time he's been like that but equally I've been no angel in the past either.

I don't even think I love him. I'm on antidepressants and if I'm truthful I think I'm depressed because I'm in a relationship I don't want and doing 90% of the childcare and housework. I would not have accepted this a few years ago.

Part of me thinks I'm overreacting and should see how things are in a few years time. The other part thinks I need to get out now.

I think I am looking for outside perspective although I appreciate that's difficult with such a brief snap shot provided? Would you leave if your DP/DH called you a cunt basically?

OP posts:
ShatnersWig · 19/02/2018 20:43

Yes!!!!! Hell yes. Amazed you need to ask frankly

category12 · 19/02/2018 20:48

Yes, this is bad.

Poshindevon · 19/02/2018 20:50

I am horrified at the number of women who live with men who bully and abuse them and they ask questions like you. Would you leave if your husband called you a c**t
Yes I would. Your DP is a useless drunk who abuses you. Who cares if you are no angel. He has no right to treat you like this.
The sooner you get shot of this man the better.

faceremovinghairscream · 19/02/2018 20:53

I put up with this kind of abuse for far too long. It's only now I am a year out the other side that I can see how bad it had got and how anxious it made me. You are worth more. It's not normal.

Original poster
Earlyriser84 · 19/02/2018 21:13

Thank you for responding. I think I know the answer as well. I've got to that stage where I just don't recognise myself and shocked that I'm even asking.

OP posts:
Icepink39 · 19/02/2018 21:19

Get out its not good for u or your kids xx

beachcomber243 · 19/02/2018 21:50

You would be much much better off on your own, yes. Do not put up with this behaviour and abuse. He sounds completely selfish and an aggressive sulking bully.
Put yourself, your children and your sanity first.

AliasGrape · 19/02/2018 21:54

You absolutely would be better off without him. I grew up in a household like this, did a lot of damage to me and my siblings. It is by no means something you should have to put up with.

RandomMess · 19/02/2018 21:59

Yep leave ASAP Thanks

mehhh · 19/02/2018 22:02

You should leave him he sounds horrendous xx

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