I have been seeing dp on and off for 9 months. He runs his own business (a trade like plumbing, electrician etc.). A friend of mine needed some help (with the area he is in) but he refused and said he has learned over the years it is better not to work for friend's friends so he did not want to do it.
He was away with his friends and one of them asked for some help in the area of work I am in. He volunteered my help without asking. I can now see he is one of those people who is terrified of being made a fool of in front of his friends.
I told him, straight away when he asked, that my company has a very specific way of working and if this friend wanted help, I could only do it in this very specific way.
This was a few days ago. I have asked the people in my team to get the information he needs but it will take a few days, doing it the way we work.
He has just phoned me now, absolutely fuming, saying he has found a better and more efficient way of getting this information and I am just making a fool of him, wasting his time and he can't believe my company works this way and there are better ways of doing it. I said errr I told you straight away this is how we work - I have 20 years experience in this area and we have found over the years that our way of doing it is a less expensive and more efficient (and productive) way of doing the work.
He has just sent me a message saying 'thanks for nothing, I'll do it myself'!!!
am I wrong in being mightily pissed off by his attitude? I have told him this is the end of our relationship if someone can have such awful double standards and be so bloody mean? he was totally disparaging about my work and the business (how can you work this way etc. etc.) - it was awful!