He's not going to do it is he

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I separated with my emotionally abusive partner a few months ago.
Due to circumstances he has remained in the house on the sofa until we can afford him to leave.
Intermittedly he asks me if he can stay, promises to change (history of gambling, chronic cannabis abuse) but says he can't do it unless we're together.
I'm wise to this bullshit and stayed resolute
Today he begged again to stay and get back together. I said no.
He has stormed out and said he is leaving tomorrow, with nowhere to go, and will probably be dead in few days.
Please help me to stay firm in my belief that this is another abuse tactic and he absolutely won't.

It is absolutely a tactic. Mine tried it too. He hasn't carried it out... I kind of wish he had!

Tell him you’ll help him pack.
Of course it’s a tactic, he’s tried being nice, it didn’t work so he’s reverted to type, abusive and manipulative.
Picture yourself free from treading on egg shells, peaceful and happy.
Tell him to shut the door on his way out and luck forward to being free from him.

I know he won't.
But I also know this abuse is going to get worse before it gets better.

He can go to his local council and they will give him a hostel or b&B accommodation at the very least.

You are not responsible for his life

If he threatens to harm himself tell him you will call the police who will then come and see if his intentions are serious

A humiliating experience for those bluffing

He's not gonna die even if he's sleeping on the streets in these mild temperatures.

Abusers always, always go down this guilt trip route.

TBH if he's left the house and he's not on the tenancy agreement I'd get the locks changed asap.

Sadly he is on tenancy. He says he is going in the morning, to remove himself from it.

He's Just making it all your fault. Help him pack and welcome in your freedom.

Stay hard and stony, really , don't let him inside your armour.

You can do this op, it will give you your freedom.

Mine tried that. I stuck to my guns and he lived in a shed at his allotment for 3 months over winter!!

My ex did this too, and slept in the car for 6 months, even though he was offered places to live.
He got a place in the end

My ex did this he just wouldn't go, even though he had somewhere else.
He literally found excuse after excuse after excuse.
It was either about money, I paid him back his whole months contribution to bills. Then it was about all his stuff, so I packed it for him. It was about how much he loved me, that was just a lie. He was like a bad smell who you couldn't get rid of. He did go eventually but was still using my house to wash and do his laundry because he wouldn't return the key.
Would send me messages saying he was walking the streets with his young child, even though he was living at his brothers.
He tried all manner of emotional blackmail and tbh I nearly caved. As soon as I decided to give it another go and let him move back in his true colours showed. He became the arsehole I knew and loved once more. I told him I was done he beat me up. Obviously he's gone now and thank God I never have to see him again.
Men like this will try anything to get what they want. They are like parasites who just don't know when to fuck off. Never again will I agree to a man moving in with me.
Stay strong op, believe nothing he says or anything he tells you. Just keep in mind the end target, getting him out of your home and life. This is just his EA ways playing games

And has he gone now?
I suspect not.
He's trying every trick in the book.
Just goes to show you that he hasn't actually changed, one little bit!
Stay strong.
Let him go.
He is responsible for himself and his own happiness.
He is a grown up.
Good luck getting him gone.
I'd be helping him pack!

He's being a complete dick head.
Calling me every name under the sun.
He hasn't left because he's waiting for his super important post to arrive.
My stomach is sick. At least my Mum is here so he's not kicking off fully.