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No contact with in laws

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Lollypops20181 · 19/02/2018 17:00

My in laws are totally nuts. I've decided to go no contact with them all. And will block any of their attempts to contact my children in future. They have treated me so badly over the years.

  1. MIL alcoholic
  2. SIL deeply damaged and recovering drug addict - remains deeply damaged
  3. MIL tried to physically attack me when pregnant with first DD for no reason
  4. MIL says terrible, nasty, untrue things about me and my family and now her grandchildren who I have refused her access to for 5 years
  5. MIL has not acknowledged grandchildren even when she has seen them in person randomly
  6. MIL has called my DH a mistake, evil, the devil, said she should have got rid etc. for many years - he has been NC for 5 years too as it was deeply damaging to him. Has spent years in therapy and is relatively well now.
  7. Any opinions MIL has of us no matter how crazy, untrue or otherwise are believed by SIL
  8. MIL has accused countless BFs of raping her or being domestically abusive - even to the point of self harming to pretend a BF has done her physical harm
  9. MIL Has married twice (to gain financially) despite not being divorced(!)
10. I have tried to be nice about my SIL for many years despite some pain she has caused us through the years. I now realise she is just as warped and crazy as MIL. Making up equally damaging stories about me, children and my family. In one way I feel sorry for her as she has been neuro programmed to believe things about me, the children and my family which are untrue. I can't summon any more forgetting or forgiveness for any of them anymore, they actually believe their own version of events to justify their behaviours and toxicity. It's finally taken it's toll and my GP has prescribed me anxiety medications as the latest accusations have caused me severe panic attacks. I have been off work unable o function for a week now. I don't even think I can tell my friends how crazy the situation has become.

Shall I tell my family the latest accusations the in laws have made about them or save them the trauma? AIBU to cut them all out of mine and my children's lives forever. And not look back.

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SandyY2K · 19/02/2018 17:12

YANBU

She sounds like a lunatic.

Lollypops20181 · 21/02/2018 14:55

Thank you, I think they are lunatics too. I feel liberated in my mind knowing I won't ever need to have anything to do with them again lol

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