We're both mid 40s but our sex life started to die probably about 10 years ago and now it's been 2 years since we last had sex. I tried instigating it several times and tried to discuss it several times, but he finds it excruciatingly embarrassing to talk about. I've got as far as him admitting that his sex drive has dwindled to the point that he's just not bothered anymore and can happily live without it.
Ok so I'm not going to force someone who doesn't want sex obviously. But where does that leave me? He refuses to consider going to the doctor. I'm increasingly frustrated, particularly as I've hit my 40s, it seems to be ramping up for me to the point where I'm having very regular sex dreams 
I've got 'toys' and use them on my own, but I miss another body, being kissed and feeling desired and sexy. I can't stand the thought that I'll never have sex again. If it happens with my husband, then it's very much "duty sex" and he's only done it to keep me happy. Which makes me feel shit and I'd rather go without.
Otherwise, the marriage is very good. We're great companions, love each other, laugh, get on well, genuinely still really like each other. I just feel very old before my time and very unsexy and undesired. 