Last week I told my husband I want a divorce. Bit of background - we've been together 15 years, married 8& have 10 & 8yr old dc. We've had a tumultuous relationship, it seems every year for the last 10 we've had some sort of crisis. I've always decided to stay in the relationship for the sake of the kids, and also really because it's easier than going through a separation. I honestly think the kids have no idea that we've got such a difficult relationship as I tend to just not say anything whilst seething inside whenever there is conflict between us . I am now sick of this way of living and want him to leave. But I'm worried about telling the kids and about managing their reactions afterwards. I'm so concerned I'm considering letting him stay, which he wants to do. But I REALLY don't want to live like this anymore and the last 10 years have proved that he won't change .
Any advice or thoughts most welcome.