Fed up with him making me cry all the time

[SunshineYouAreMySunshine]

I am so fed up. I'm quite a cryer anyways but my partner is pushing me so much. I'm 17 weeks pregnant and I wish he would learn that shouting and getting irate doesn't help me and my way of handling things. I'm no angel at All but it seems he just doesn't care about me when I'm upset. This morning he got pissed because a woman next door was shouting at her child repeatedly and woke us up. He started knocking on the wall and I told him to leave it. He proceeds to then tell me to fuck off and then we go into a shouting match because he's also pissed off he's got no baccy. Im pretty sure at that point we woke up the rest of the flats!!! Every time we argue I cry my eyes out because I'm scared this is gonna be happening forever. I don't want my baby to see or hear us arguing I'm just scared

She wasn't making him out to be the bad guy, he was the bad guy for acting that way !? It doesn't excuse that he was telling the women she shouldn't be shouting her child
He was using his aggression
Again my ex used to do that

This is not going to fair on your future child and having a child is hardly without stress, so expect more of this behaviour. “But I love him, isn’t an excuse for his behaviour or your relationship dynamic.

This is who he is and unless he sees his behaviour as a problem there’s no incentive to change, especially when you’ve accepted his behaviour all these years.

His behaviour is a dealbreaker for you or it isn’t, he’s perfectly happy with the status quo therefore the balls in your court, not his.

At least his knocking (he didn't bang) on the wall could have stopped the woman shouting at her child.

It must be rather unpleasant being woken up to a child being shouted at and perhaps traumatic for him ... the OP admitted following him.

but also didn't like the way I followed him and proceeded to argue

I'm not saying his shouting at the OP was okay...but this situation need have caused an argument.

Yeah because I'm sure he politely knocked and didn't bang from the way he has been described from the op
I again do that to my ex, trying to talk to him when he is in a rage to try sort things out just gets perceived that she is provoking him from what she has said
Safe to say we both have difference of opinion on this
Anyway op, I wish you all the best I do
I hope you have taken all this advice and have a good long hard think if you want to stay in a relationship with this man
I know it's hard but it will be even harden once baby arrives
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We are a lot better than we used to be, and I know he loves me as much as I love him.

A man who loves his partner does not repeatedly shout at her and tell her to fuck off

He does have anger problems and he knows that and I'm sure in the future he will get help for that if it ever effects family life.

Why would he when you're putting up with it?

How's things?

I was very hormonal through my pregnancies... my DH told me that he had to bite his tongue so many times, because I was pregnant! I can’t imagine him shouting or swearing at me when I’m carrying his baby!
Don’t think I would trust your partner after the baby comes, you will both be exhausted, sleep deprived and stressed... this might trigger violence in him. I would worry about my baby around person like that.
But I have a feeling you’re not even thinking of leaving him.... person that really loves you won’t make you cry and upset you especially when you’re pregnant.