Online register for your current abusive partner? Like Clare's Law but more identifying.

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There's so many threads on here about current or past abusive partners.

Women who've experienced this eventually realise there's a script.
With Mumsnet threads on this subject, some of the striking similarities in behaviour and events make me think I'm reading about my own ex partner sometimes!

But no, it's just another woman's partner who's abusive in eerily similar ways. Reinforcing the idea there's a script, a pattern, that they all fit.

So, where Clare's Law can be useful for helping women to check out a new partner's potential past abusive history, not all women may be aware of this facility.
Or their partner may not have a history of police attendance record, convinctons, etc but have a current history of abuse with their partner.

So, is it viable having an online register where you can provide details of your experience, not including their name or obviously identifying details, but perhaps location (town or city district, etc) and physical description of the abuser.

Age range more important than real age, as my ex is currently lying about his age online anyway .

Photographs clearly can't be used unfortunately.

For instance, if the current girlfriend of my ex partner knew that he had almost strangled me to death, had physically assaulted his own toddler daughter, had put me in A and E a couple of times, went on to construct elaborate online hate campaigns several years after I'd let him, had manipulated many of my extended family, and so on, wouldn't it be a useful resource for her to make some informed decisions,

Or would she be just like me, and not believe anything bad about her charming boyfriend, or be so emotionally vulnerable herself she couldn't see the wood for the trees anyway, so wouldn't even be likely to seek out information like this.

Apologies for grammar blinkin iPad has just quirked on me so I can't use exclamations, question marks etc.

Like everything, perhaps it would be open to abuse itself, i.e. vindictive women just registering their partner for malcicious reasons, I don't know how that could be avoided

No I don't think it's workable. I do think it should be easier to use Claire's law though as I googled it and it seemed quite difficult. Like having to attend the police station etc. they put me off so would be good if they could tell you over the phone.

Not even if it was a dedicated Mumsnet thread as this subject has a lot of interest in this website ?

Interesting! I wonder how often it could lead to misunderstandings though?

For instance, my ex-partner was 6.1, 35-45 years or age, medium brown hair and blue eyes with medium build frame. There were no defining characteristics. I may have just described hundreds of men; many of which have probably never hurt a woman in their lives.

I completely agree with the sentiment behind this though but you’re right, I fear that women ‘crying wolf’ would lead to men becoming victims too.

So much work needs to be done in this area before real changes can happen. X

How would a person search for their partner if no names included? Or would they just have to search his age, location and description and hope for the best? Lots of people move around and lie about where they’ve lived so location mightn’t even be useful.