Dh and I have been married 15 years. 2 dc, 10 and 3. Not been particularly happy for a while but not so unhappy I'd risk rocking the boat, causing upheaval to the dcs etc.
Recently I met up with a (male) work colleague for a drink. Not something I do very often, but we get on well, have a kind of gently flirty friendship.
For the record, dh often goes out with work colleagues, in a group and also just 2 of them. I have no problem at all with this.
So anyway, he didn't like it. And this opened a whole can of worms. I told him I wasn't particularly happy with a) the hypocrisy, b) his lack of interest in me and c) that I felt we are mates just co-parenting.
He said our sex life was boring and a chore but he still found me attractive. We discussed splitting up but neither of us are ready to make that leap.
We both agree that something needs to change but we both have to work full time to pay the bills and can't afford babysitters, nights out etc.
We're both walking on eggshells, he won't even look at me. I'm so hurt by the sex comments and the fact that I said I felt neglected by him and he's responded by ignoring me.
I don't know where we can go from here.