Cheating? Porn? Help

[Pinklemonade16]

Hi all just want some advice please. Have had previous problems with my partner before about porn/dating websites found on his phone. The first time he entered his phone number in a website to ‘find no strings sex near you’. When I caught him he said he was drunk and curious and would never do anything, said sorry etc etc. That was over a year ago. So since then has caught him on a few porn websites/dating websites in his website data on iPhone. He always denies it’s not him he don’t know how it got there etc. Anyone know more about website data please. I know it is data from sites you have visited and pop ups, but found this again today (the flirt and sex one) and just don’t know what to do anymore. Is it a pop up from watching porn? Or something else. I’m going out of my mind

You don't trust him at all. Isn't it driving you nuts trying to police him? Is this the person you want to be?

Instead of this digging around, stop and think about whether this relationship is ever going to be happy.

Yes it is driving me nuts and of course I don’t want to be like this. But he says it’s not him so what do I do live with it, leave, get the truth....

OP - these threads pop us and I always wonder - what are you really hoping to hear.
It’s clear that you don’t trust your bf. And it’s no way to live, not for a long term anyway.

These days, technology makes all kinds of things possible. And a smart person would be able to hide it all. So - there is no way you can control and check up on everything. You’ll only drive yourself crazy.

So - either he makes you happy, or he doesn’t. And relationship works or doesn’t.
Has nothing to do with his internet - or pop up data - that no one can decipher anyway.

It's no way to live, op.

He maybe telling the truth. These pop ups come up on porn sites all the time and will show in website data and history. He actually may well be telling the truth and knowing how the data does work, I’d be inclined to believe him. As in he’s been watching porn and these are pop ups.

I think if you don’t trust him though and it’s got to this stage of policing it’s time to call it quits.

I found something similar on dhs phone last year, I have absolutely no ways to think he's cheating or even watches porn. If he did watch porn, it wouldn't be that big of an issue to me anyway and we do have an active sex life.

I never looked again, he always gets emails from these sort of sites and always goes to unsubscribe so I've put it down to that.

Like I've said, I've got no reason to suspect my dh of anything, I'm not going to obsess over it as what's the point? It's just a website, means nothing.

If I saw he had searched for plenty of fish or tinder, I'd be more gutted at that.

Also I can see that this isn't his internet history, it's the advanced data. I've always believed that pop ups are harder to get rid of, that's why they are still in he advanced data part even though they've been deleted from the history. He probably doesn't even know advanced data exists, my hubby won't have a clue