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Being Hurtful to prove a point

7 replies

sillycone · 02/05/2007 14:59

What is the most hurtful thing you can say to a man to get a point across that you don't like what he's doing?

My partner has an old battered GTi car, a proper crappy boy racer type and he things everyone is impressed by it but to be truthful it's just a banger. He thinks that by speeding and revving the engine people feel intimidated by it and respect him and his "powerful car" when in reality he just looks a twat.

I've told him that I hate him speeding, its embarrasing, childish, boring, pathetic...nobody is impressed by it, its just ridiculous. BUT i think deep down he genuinly believed that I put on a front and that I enjoy it. I want to hurt his feelings so that he knows once and for all that I hate it. The last time I got to him I said "don't do that, everyone is looking and laughing at us and its embarrasing" and that seemed to get to him a bit.

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chirpygirl · 02/05/2007 15:21

Try getting out when he revs the engine in traffic and rfuse to get back in with someone that acts like a 3 year old.

It's a good question but be warned, your topic headline may mean people will not open it!

chirpygirl · 02/05/2007 15:21

(that was meant in a way!)

mumto3girls · 02/05/2007 15:24

I would just not get in the car anymore...

PetronellaPinkPants · 02/05/2007 15:25

Well I guess you could say (depending on how old he is) next time you see someone in a similar situation in a car next to you "god look at that embarrassing old twat, do you think he thinks he looks cool or something"

scootermum · 02/05/2007 15:27

Pour sugar in his petrol tank then suggest to him that you have heard a rumour that a neighbour did it as they were driven insane by his teenage joyrider driving? (only joking )

Think you will just have to speak to him in all seriousness-especially as it might be dangerous to you, him and other people if he carries on..

snowleopard · 02/05/2007 15:29

Talk to him about children who are killed by speeding drivers - is that what he wants for his DC?

I also think anyone who speeds is basically not very good at driving. After all if they had any skill at all they'd be able to stick to a speed limit which is there for the safety of others. Challenge him - can he drive that well? Point out that you are a better driver as you can do it just fine.

I would be sneaky though and do it in a breezy matter-of-fact way. really hurting him and enraging him isn't a great idea - it's likely to push his aggressive buttons and just make him want to speed more.

bluebubbles · 02/05/2007 17:51

"Well I guess you could say (depending on how old he is) next time you see someone in a similar situation in a car next to you "god look at that embarrassing old twat, do you think he thinks he looks cool or something" thats a good one,

or when my husband acts like this in the car (being a arse) usually at traffic lights next to a boyracer, i pretend to get really over the top excited, clap my hands like a loony pull my knees up to my chest and squeel "louder louder rev it more" he cant handle anyone being sarky and usually calms him down for a bit.

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