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Dating.. Would you?

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 21:06

So my friend met this man went on one date with him but he keeps sending her money! So far he's transferred her £200 for her birthday and £700 today! He sent her flowers on valentines day and chocolates which cost over £100. Can't help but feel a little jealous! She hasn't slept with him and he doesn't live in the country so not like he's expecting sex as he only comes for visits (has friends/family here) would you accept the gifts?? I can't help but wonder whats in it for him. (They talk on whatsapp)

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LipstickHandbagCoffee · 17/02/2018 21:09

I’d not be envious in least.id be thinking he’s batshit/crim/Money laundering
Sorry you get owt for nowt,there a catch.physical,mental or emotional,there a catch

WonderWhippet · 17/02/2018 21:10

Is it simply a Sugar daddy type arrangement?

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 21:11

I keep thinking there must be a catch but so far doesn't seem to be.

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OurMiracle1106 · 17/02/2018 21:11

I’d Be highly suspicious tbh.

There’s going to be a catch. After 1 date I wouldn’t even expect a message on valentines to say happy valentines let alone money flowers chocolates etc.

I’d RUN as fast as I could

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 21:11

Hmm yeh thinking about it he must be as she's just turned 30 and he's in his 50s.

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niceupthedance · 17/02/2018 21:11

Is he a money pig? (Google it)

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 17/02/2018 21:20

Why’s a 50something ol guy sniffing around a 30something female
Hooky

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 21:24

Hmm yeh I suppose it's easy to see it as tempting (when your very broke like me) but it is abit creepy. She recently broke her phone and got an iphone 6 on contract (she asked for the cheapest one.) when she told him he told her there was no way she was going to have a 6 and that he was going to get her the iphone x. More money than sense.

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 21:26

Just googled money pig. Sounds spot on.

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BeHappyMummy · 17/02/2018 21:30

If it's a money pig then there's no sex involved right?

Going to start researching. I need one.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 17/02/2018 21:56

I maintain owt for nowt,so whilst the catch or expectation isn’t immediate.there is one
Otherwise if this 50yo is philanthropic,kind and altruistic the recipient wouldn’t need to be 30yo female

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 22:31

I need one aswell! I said that to her could seriously do with one of him.

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userxx · 17/02/2018 23:25

But would you really take money and gifts of a random? I just find the whole idea so fucking cringe.

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 23:37

Yeh if there was no catch.

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LipstickHandbagCoffee · 17/02/2018 23:41

Catch so there’s always a catch,but if you’re willing to ho it ask your mate for tips

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ThisLittleKitty · 17/02/2018 23:43

Well she hasn't slept with him so can't see what the catch is. She met him in a club and I reckon she was lucky as there won't be many men like him hanging out.

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userxx · 17/02/2018 23:48

Ewwwwe. No chance. I make my own money thanks, no need for charity handouts.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 17/02/2018 23:54

Genuinely, do you think this is ok?older guy,cash transactions,big materialistic gesture
despite not really knowing each other.its really not the usual path of relationships
And the age gap?unless you both have an older affluent guy thing
Out of interest are older men her thing,or only affluent older guys?

LittleMe03 · 18/02/2018 00:01

Agree with PP. would rather make my own money.

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ThisLittleKitty · 18/02/2018 00:16

She does make her own money she has a very high paying job she's far from broke (unlike me which is why I said it was tempting.) she certainly isn't looking for a relationship with him. I think they just talk on whatsapp and he sends her money. She doesn't generally go for older guys but she wouldn't date a man who didn't have a lot of money.

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AndTheBandPlayedOn · 18/02/2018 00:23

So she gave her bank details to a stranger? Nope. Identity theft may be around the corner for her.

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ThisLittleKitty · 18/02/2018 00:29

Think it's just her pay pal.

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LittleMe03 · 18/02/2018 00:39

If it sounds too good to be true i( usually is....

LittleMe03 · 18/02/2018 00:39

It*

TracyL74 · 18/02/2018 04:07

There'll definitely be a catch. Sounds like he's paving a way....then it'll come.

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