DH reaction to message

[Beelzebop]

I would be very grateful for your opinions and if possible how your do would react? Thanks, I am very unsure of my own judgement due to general life stuff.

I received a message from someone apologising for bullying me when we were younger. I was bullied a bit, being a large geek in the 80s. Apparently I asked him out, don't remember , and he was really nasty. It has bothered him and he said he was rude and I was too nice to be treated like that. I am actually taking someone to court who is bullying me so this really touched me, maybe I'm soft. Its a long ago happening.
I showed DH when he got in and explained it and why I'd appreciated it. He asked me why I was showing him and eventually said it was nothing to do with him, general huffing. I feel like he sat on my little glimmer of lovely. Am I in the wrong? Thanks.

I don't think it's jealousy laur, but who knows?
Weezol, unfortunately I think there is some truth in what you say but as soon as I start considering that idea my heart starts going. Yetmorecrap, I had never considered this but thankfully even if that was the case I behaved like the angel I am .
For the little bullied geek inside me that message meant a lot, so I really hope it's real.

Did he used to be a bully? Is he a bully now?

It was a strange and mean reaction. Why not be happy about something that made you happy.

I have a friend who's OH will not listen to any story that mentions an ex, even from school. Is he irrationally jealous?

For what it's worth I think it's brilliant this man reached out to apologise

The message is a big thing for the person who sent it. They may be doing the steps of Alcoholics or Narcotics Anonymous and this may be part of their making amends.

They may have a child being bullied and are having some realisations about their behaviour in the past.

It may be neither of these, but I woukd take it on face value as just what it is, an apology.

I think getting yourself into counselling is a good idea. Have a look at the Women's Aid website to start with. I went to counselling for a specific problem, but it ended up helping me and empowering me in all areas of my life.

Greensleeves breathing exercise is great, similar to one I learned in counselling. I use it quite often, especially when feeling nervous or het up. Concentrating on the exercise breaks into the thoughts that lead to my 'cycle of doom' and derails them so they don't take hold.

Hello everyone, I am really sorry that I've not replied sooner. I have found it very hard to look on here as it means I have to think about reality. That message was lovely and DH can stuff off if he thinks he's going to ruin it, but I feel so tired. Let's just say I've been doing a lot of reading and listened to an audio used to describe an emotional abuser and it could have been my partner. I don't know about sucks but I'm getting my brain cells in order.

Lolol ducks not sucks