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Should I stay or should I go?

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Jemima1712 · 16/02/2018 22:10

Hi

I'm after some advice. Here goes....in a nutshell...

My OH works away alot sometimes for weeks on end so it's like I'm a single parent dealing with everything on my own. Just the general day to day stuff, shopping keeping on top of daily chours, walking the dog all with a nearly two year old. My DS is not yet talking (but so close) so I try to be as patient as can, as I feel it must be quite frustrating for him. We plod on quite well on my days he is not at nursery and I'm not at work. But then my partner will come home and it will all go to pot. We had a huge argument today about the house being messy. So I left him alone all afternoon from 1 till 6 and when I returned the house was as exactly as It had been before I left at 1pm. I sarcastically said (probably shouldnt) I thought you were going to show me how to do it! To my surprise he said he doesn't see why he should do it! All our arguments (this is the first one in a few months) seem to be that I can't keep on top of the house and he hates coming home to a messy house. But I have explained to him it's non stop from 6:30am till 7:30pm...With my little boy and the dog. Then doing the normal everyday tasks. But I feel like whatever I do is never enough. He always points out the things ive done wrong/haven't done. Never acknowledges what I have actually done. I would just like some advice on how to get it through to him without sounding like I'm struggling.....or am I being ridiculous? The last thing I want is to split up but would I be better off on my own? Am I overreacting?

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Cricrichan · 16/02/2018 22:14

Tell him to fuck off. You're not his housekeeper! If he'd like it tidier then he can crack on or hire someone to help. And to be bloody grateful to you for doing all the housework and childcare!

Cricrichan · 16/02/2018 22:16

And why shouldn't he do it but you should?? Does his penis get in the way or something?

Regularsizedrudy · 16/02/2018 22:21

Oh tell him to fuck off.

LifeinColour · 16/02/2018 22:30

Def would be better off without him, he sounds awful! I’ve started asking myself.. would I treat someone like that? & if I wouldn’t then I def don’t put up with hay shit!

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