Is this abusive?

[heartonsleeve777]

On a city break with DP. All was fine until he said that his friend who lives in same city as us but who he sees very little is in the same city abroad as us. He told me "we are going out tonight" I just didn't like being told what we were doing especially as it's our trip away. He denied ever saying that (he did) and then tried to say "alright are you drunk do I need to get you water" at my frustrated upset, I've had one pint and very sober.

Sorry if I'm completely missing the point.. but I don't think it's abusive that he's made plans to see his friend and has said that's your plan for the evening

DP and I have been on holiday before and it turns out people we know have also been there and we've met up once or twice, it's not that big of a deal to me anyway

If you really object to it couldn't you do your own thing and let him go see his friend?

Why would it be abusive? It sounds like you've just had a disagreement and he made a silly remark about it because he was annoyed, but other than that? Or is it the fact he arranged to meet up with his friend but didn't ask first? I can't see any abuse in either.

If you have to come on a forum to ask if your partner is abusive, though, I think there are probably isses with your relationship.

Your example isnt abuse. Is there other issues within the relationship which has made you think he might be abusive?

I'm confused. What do you think is abusive?

This isn't abusive in the slightest. Are you perhaps missing the wider point? To be honest it doesn't really make that much sense. Is he gas lighting you? Is he otherwise a good partner? This alone sounds like a couple having a spat. What did you tell him in response?

Really struggling to see how this is abusive too. He made plans and you didn't want to go. I'd have probably made fun of you too if you threw a fit over this.