Over use of the phrase i love you

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I just want some opinions on whether im over reacting and, if im not, what i say.

Been with bf since october, he is lovely, loviest man ive ever met, really attentive and caring and helpful and i do love him.

We first said i love you to each other around the middle of jan and since then its getting unbearable. We watched a 2 hour film the other night and during the film he said i love you 17 times!! Actually 17 and yes i am sad enough/annoyed enough to count.

It seems like a silly thing to bother me but it makes me feel suffocated. Ive had some really shit relationships in the past and said i want to take this one slowly which tbf bf has respected. But the otger night i felt like running out the door and juat shutting myself in my car for half an hour so i didnt have to hear it again!!

I dont want to upset bf because like i said in every other way he is wonderful.

Do you think this is just something i need to get over and im equating to previous relationships or do you think 17 times in 2 hours is a bit excessive?! im honestly not that loveable ha

Yea that's really excessive and quite odd in fact. I tell my husband I love him once a day and vice versa.
I mean was he just turning round to you at random moments and saying it or was there some sort of conversation occurring? Were you saying it back each time? I'd have gotten really uncomfortable and ended up laughing. Very strange.

Ha, I'm that type too. I find it very easy to say, very easy to mean, but know my girlfriend is more comfortable with a couple of times a day, showing it quite wonderfully in numerous other ways.

BUT... I still raised my eyebrows a bit at 17 times in two hours! My girlfriend values my levels but of affection but she'd have gagged me so she could watch in peace after the third or fourth time! Or maybe just kill me.

That does seem excessive. DP and I have a great relationship and say I love you a lot, but that’s a couple of times a day each... is he feeling insecure do you think? Could you ask him why he feels he needs to say it so much?

Enjoy it while it lasts!

Ew. Too desperate for me. What age is he? Five?
What does he do when you don't say it back?

Thanks everyone, good to know im not just beimg heartless. yes it was just randomly through out, we werent talking as i cant talk and watch tele 😂.

I dont mind a few times a day i.e at the end of a phone call or when we say goodnight but kust randomly every 10 minutes makes me qant to scream in hjs face to fuck off

I will speak to him about it later, like i say i dont want to hurt him or upset him, i think he is insecure yes, but its gettig tok much for me, its got to the point i dont want him to come round because ill be bombarded with i love yous and then i feel awful for thinking that.

My husband is a constant 'i love you' sayer. If not to me then to the kids but even he would find it hard to manage 17 times in 2 hours. Perhaps he was going for a world record?

I had an ex like this, he said it constantly, and I mean every few minutes, during films, dinner or walking around the shops. He would sulk like a child if I didn’t respond.
It drove me absolutely bonkers!

17?! That is far and above more time than I was expecting you to say he’d said it!

That would drive me bonkers too.

I came on to the thread to say “of course you can’t say it too frequently” but 17 times in 2 hours!!

That would drive me bonkers. It’s so terribly needy. Pay attention to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Worth a gentle conversation.

That would totally devalue it for a lot of people.

I think you need to come up with a funny response rather than tell him it’s too much.

I can’t think of one at the moment but you know what I mean! It will lighten the mood and get your point across without hurting him.

My dh is a repeat "I love you" offender but 17 times in two hours?! Just start saying "I know" in response and see what happens.

thenaze that how i feel! Like it doesnt even mean anything its just an automatic response if no one has spoken in 5 minutes

gertie I did think about writing it on it post it note on a little stick and just holding it up every time he said it

Weird

We say I love you several times a day but 17 times in two hours! Have a chat with him and as previous poster said just reply with I know see what happens!

Good lord! If we saw it 17 in a month I'd be surprised. He said it about once every 7 minutes- how did you respond?

Was it on Valentine's Day? Maybe he's just a bit misguided and thought it was romantic or something.