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Please help me, feeling lost

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Noodlee · 16/02/2018 12:26

I'll try keep it as short as I can. My partner suffers with anxiety and anger issues. He was forced to go through therapy as a kid and it backfired and he had a bad experience of it. I was forced to go too and didn't like it. I think I'm suffering with depression/ bipolar as it runs in the family and I've been to the doctor about it. I'm going to go to therapy to help myself and my family. My partner still has anger problems and I've told him he needs to go to talk to someone about it. He wont go though. I told him I've given him time to try sort his anger out and he hasn't and that if he doesn't go get help I can't do it anymore. He says I'm forcing him to go but i dont think I am I'm just genuinely telling him how I feel. Opinions would be great?

Also I dont feel he has any motivation or drive in life and its starting to get to me. I want a future but he isnt working towards that. I've spoken to him about it and he said he will work on it and that i need to let him show me he can have that motivation and drive. Is that possible?

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Shoxfordian · 16/02/2018 12:34

As you've asked him to sort out his anger and he won't then I think its clear he isn't going to prioritise your relationship

I don't think he seems like a good partner

hellsbellsmelons · 16/02/2018 12:36

How long have you been together?
Are there any DC involved?
What sort of behaviour does he display when he is angry?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 16/02/2018 12:36

What do you get out of this relationship?.

You and he should not be together any longer. Its clearly not working here and you would be better off apart.

Who does he get angry with, everyone else around him or is it just you?. He may well have a problem with anger, your anger when you call him out on his unreasonable behaviours. He seems to be paying simple lip service to the problems and is really not interested in working on it at all nor in seeking any help. He seems quite happy as he is and you are not responsible for him when all is said and done.

Noodlee · 16/02/2018 14:11

We have a 4 month old together and have been together 2 years this month. He gets angry with me, he gets frustrated with our LO but is working on that. He swears and raises his voice when he is angry.

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