This will be a long post, but do bear with me as I really do need to know how to try and decide what's best...
10 mths ago I met a widow, he's in his 60s, and it was probably too soon for him to start seeing someone. We live 60 miles apart, and I spent my days off - 3 or 4 days at a time - with him....
So, the night before valentines day an email pops up from a woman saying she would love to meet again, followed by some quite sexually explicit text.....
I was aware from day one that he and his late wife - they were together 30 odd yrs - attended group sex and swingers evenings, and when I challenged him it is where he met this woman. He has always said they enjoyed sex for what it was, and both saw people for just sex, and saved the emotional sex for between themselves...I said very early on that I wanted an exclusive relationship, and if he wanted sex with others we should discuss it so I could decided if I still wanted our relationship to continue.
He saw her with his wife's knowledge for a while, then she asked him to stop, which he did for 3+yrs until they got in touch again. He last saw her 6 mths before his wife died, and there was last contact by email over a year ago. Their emails over time are very sexually explicit and I know they have done sexual things for each other on Skype.
He has shown me the emails between them this time round, which do only seem to have started on 11th Feb, but escalated rapidly in 24hrs. But strangely he hadn't told her about the death of his wife..
He says he wants me, loves me and wants us to try and work things out. He has emailed her now saying his wife died and he's met someone else and in order for our relationship to survive he does not want any further contact with her
...is this enough???