I want to leave him

[BeauMirchoff]

But I don't have the balls to do it. I know he's not right for me and I've posted about my problems with him before. Could someone please explain to me why the hell I'm holding onto him like he's the last man on this planet? Last night he called me a cunt and a fuck, fgs! He's put us in financial trouble and smokes weed, which I hate. I need to leave him. Please help me!

Why do you think you're holding onto someone you're not happy with?

I don't know. He was great in the beginning so I guess I'm holding onto that...memories of him being great. The idea of him with another woman, possibly? But then she'd have a shit life too, like I do right now. Unless she is happy being his servant and worshipping him even though he has very little to offer to another person...

How long have you been together, and how long was it good for at the start?

You don't sound happy or like your heart is in the relationship anymore. Only you can make the decision whether to stay with him because it was good once and you would prefer to be stuck in a bad relationship than to accept you will both eventually be with new people. But, and I mean this kindly, it's your decision to make. So far you're deciding to be with him despite all of the above problems so clearly on balance you feel you get more from being with him than you would leaving him.

So what's making you decide to still be with him right now?

All men are great in the beginning?! A good life lesson to learn

You are absolutely correct in thinking he will behave with another woman exactly as he does with you. Not in the beginning though!

Just cut your losses

I think it's having to start all over again. Telling the kids, telling my family. Going through the whole process of separating. This is what's stopping me from leaving him. I think..!

We have been together for seven six years, @LemonShark. And I guess it waa good for the first two/three years.

I need to leave him. Please help me!
HOW???
What sort of help do you want?
You KNOW you need to leave.
What is the living situation?
Rented property? Who's name is it in?
Does he work?
The man he was at the beginning was the fake him to draw you in.
THIS is the real him now.
You won't see that fake guy again.
Please get some counselling to understand why you think you are worth so little.
I also think looking into The Freedom Programme might help you.
You can do it on-line.
Time for you to start putting boundaries in place and raise that bar.
Push this guy under that bar and move on.
But only YOU can do it when you are ready.
We can all scream and shout and tell you to GET AWAY - RUN FOR THE HILLS.

But until you are ready you won't do anything.

Oh... and you don't need balls.
Men have balls and so many of them are weak.
You need to pull up your big girl pants and start making an action plan to get away.