This the place to talk about divorcing?

[Whodoeswhatwhennow]

It has been on the cards for ages, but we're finally doing it.

I can't afford to live where we live on my income (South West) and I have no family here, only here for his job. He thinks I am being ridiculous wanting to move closer to my family so I have support and can afford to rent, I honestly don't see an alternative?

He finally apologised last night for how he used to treat me at the start of our relationship. Letting his family be rude to me, being a heavy drinker and making my birthdays (particularly my 21st and 18th) really quite awful.

I am much older now and no longer see him as a God like figure and wonder what the hell I was thinking.

We have one DD aged 3, who adores my family and always asks to see them, but we don't as it's too far.

The annoying bit is that I started a great job here a month ago. It's almost like he was annoyed I did well and has had to ruin it.

Anyway my real question is can I make him sell the house (joint names)? I certainly don't want it and would like to be able to move on with my life as soon as possible.

Also how can we divorce on grounds of unreasonable behaviour when I have no proof? I feel like it has been a lot of emotional abuse (put downs, snide remarks, denying things I know he did/said). He can be awful as soon as nobody is around but plays happy families if anyone is watching.

He openly talked about (perfectly right BMI) DD going on a diet in front of her and how she shouldn't have treats....
If I try to diet he deliberately biys sweet things and cooks really calorific meals. If I don't eat them he sulks that I am ungrateful.

Yes you can force the slaw via a solicitors
You can divorce on any grounds - assuming he won't disagree with it?

Only the solicitors and judge see the reasoning - so makes little different

You don't need proof for unreasonable behaviour. Just examples and dates are helpful if you can manage them. But lots of detail. Start writing things down and keep them in a private place if you can. 5-7 examples are usually good to aim for.

I recently was granted a divorce and cited unreasonable behaviour and am happy to help if you have any questions. I do recommend seeing a solicitor regarding the financial side of things. Lists are your friend here.

You don't need proof. You pick a few examples of unreasonable behaviour, give approximate dates. That's all you need.

If he defends the divorce, it might be more difficult, but that would end up being hashed out by solicitors.

I don't think he will try and stop it.

He seems pretty chuffed I'm going.

I think the divorce will mean you can force a sale or for him to buy you out. You should get legal advice for the financial stuff.