Why are men so happy after a break up?

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Why after a break up do men seem so cheery and just completely fine, whereas some women are in bits? I’ve split with my dp and although I finished things I’m not sitting crying but I do feel a bit sad and he doesn’t seem bothered the slightest or even questioned me just a bit quiet but other than that normal!

Try not to think about how he is or isn't feeling, the main thing is looking after yourself.

Squiglet- if the man ends it then that’s often the case.

Thanks all. We were together 5 years and have 1 dd. I am glad we have split but when I told him he had nothing to say to me at all, didn’t speak until a few days later I asked what was going on and he said he would move in with his Mum. Obviously I was relieved but still felt a bit gutted and was just a bit when he had nothing to say or couldn’t be bothered to fight for the relationship but hey ho!

It sounds like he’d probably checked out a while back. Some men are actually relieved when they are dumped as they are too spineless to do the dumping themselves, so get what they want & are guilt free.

Some people also find it easier to move on & see it as an opportunity not a negative

There IS evidence - research- which shows men do tend to a) start dating sooner after a break up and b) get into a new relationship faster than women. It also applies to men who are widowed- they are more likely to remarry.

I think on the whole men's egos are different; they need a woman around for validation and tend to be more proactive to find someone. Doesn't mean they don't feel sad, just that they try to plug the gap with someone new.

It's just a generalisation, I love DP with all my heart but I know he would be more gutted if we broke up because he is more emotional than me. I've known women be relieved to break up and the men pining for them. Everyone is different.

I think sometimes it does feel like men can move on quicker.. but maybe that's because women saw more problems in the relationship and want to be single for a while whereas he was ignorant to it and now doesn't want to be alone!