Don't want to see BF tomorrow

[GinghamStyle]

BF has found a new game that he's been playing the last few weeks after work (he finishes at 10pm) but comes by to see me for 5-10 mins before I go to bed. We live nearby and so it's only a slight detour on his way home.

He's off this week and we had Saturday night together after he finished work, while DS wasn't here and spent most of Sunday sleeping in, and then coffee and watching a bit of TV. He left about 4 when I went to get DS.

He didn't come round again on Sunday. Yesterday, he spent the majority of the evening gaming online with his friend. We spoke a couple of times and he said that he'd see me "later" then "later later" then when I phoned him at 10:30 he said that he was playing with his friend. He said he was sorry, but when I said "you're not really sorry" he said that he was sorry that I was upset by it.

Today, I called round before school run with some groceries for his mum and nipped to see him. He was gaming again and when I left at 3:30 he was settling into a session with his friend. Phoned him a few minutes ago to ask about him coming round tonight, he said that he wants to spend tonight gaming and that we'd have some time together tomorrow.

Thing is, I really CBA to see him tomorrow and be all enthusiastic about Valentines when he CBA to see me today or yesterday.

Yes, I can go a couple of days without seeing him, but it's the saying he'll see me later and then spending his time gaming that's pissed me off. We broke up before briefly as he was spending so much time at his computer and would say we'd spend time together and then at bedtime leave to go home to game till the early hours.

What am I doing??

Manchild- get rid.

Good question, what are you doing? You already know what to do.

What are you doing? Um, wasting your time on an absolute dick.
Treat yourself this valentines day and dump this loser. Jeez the absolute chumps some women put up with

Im a gamer myself op, so is dp.

Have you done anything with your ds together? Or is it too soon?

Personally do comes round from work a few times a week. We all have tea together and play some games , my DD is 9. Then he reads her a bedtime story then we relax, he plays an hour or so on the Xbox then we want h a movie.

Weekends are similar. I would put up with a man child blowing me off. How old is he?

We've been together nearly a year, and for the most part it's good. We each have our hobbies and interests, just that at the moment he's being selfish or whatever.

Gah. We want different long term things too :(

Don't see him then...spend the day with DS x

Sorry Gingham but I really do think you need to give him a bloody good kick up the arse, if you can manage to get him off it long enough to do it. He obviously prefers to play games with his mate, rather than bedroom games with you. Tell him to FO, and find someone else who appreciates you.

I’m a bit worried you are dating my 13 year old son

He's 6 years younger than me, 26. We don't do a lot together as he usually is off work while DS is at school or asleep. At weekends, I have quite a busy timetable with spending time with DS and friends etc. We had a good time over Christmas when we both had time off but DS has SEN and he's the first non fling boyfriend I've had since he was small and I don't want to push BF into too much too soon and rush things with them.

His mum has mental health problems and so he had to grow up quite quickly and so he's not like he's a young 26.

We get on really well and when I have Saturday nights to myself, we usually go to his and he games and I watch/have an interest, likewise with his other hobbies.

I guess I feel at the minute like I'm the one making the effort.

He sounds like a small child, I think you should consider giving him a wide birth full stop not just tomorrow

This would piss me off no end tbh. I just don’t get gaming at all, unless you’re a teenage boy.

Really,,my thoughts are just get along with your own life and find a real man. This is way too much trouble.

He's a manchild and he doesn't sound mature enough for a relationship

Ocelot

You don’t watch films, binge box sets or ever fancy scrabble or monopoly?

Games are another form of entertainment and nothing to ‘not get’. It’s normal.

Ignoring your life and responsibilities to do it however is not. Common sense mate.

If he had to grow up too quickly he would have had to skip a lot of the teenage stuff most people go through, and then grow out of.

He never had a chance to go through it properly, so hasn't had a chance to grow up properly. So while you think he is more mature than the average 26 year old because of what he went through, in many ways he's actually LESS mature.

He is flaky. I wouldn't trust him not to ditch you or your ds in the future when things get more serious.

Hold on, you've been together just a year and when you have a free Saturday night together, you go round to his and watch him play games!!! Fair enough if you were both gamers and both taking an active part but to just sit there and watch is rather odd.

There are some really big issues here and I think you know that this relationship is going nowhere.

he has chosen his new love..... your merely a hindrance to his new found passion